It is very important to instill good self-esteem in our children.
They are our future leaders and community builders.
If we prepare them as we should, we can help shape their future to become productive human beings.
Sometimes, we cause our kids to develop low self-esteem and it can become hard for them to repair the damages even when becoming an adult.
There are many simple ways we can build up our child self-esteem starting from infancy.
Here are some quick, simple and easy ways to boost up children's self-esteem: Your baby- -Smile at your baby every time she looks into your eyes.
That will make her feel good and confident of your love for her.
-When your baby wants to be held, pick her up.
Do not be fooled by anyone saying you are spoiling your baby.
It's a natural thing for babies to want to be held.
And expecting them to not cry to be held is really ridiculous.
That's what babies do people; they cry to communicate and expect to be responded to.
-Do "baby wearing" if you can.
"Baby wearing" is the closest, natural way you can carry your child.
It gives them the same feeling of security as when they were in your belly.
There have been many researches related to the benefit of "baby wearing" -Get to the habit of complimenting her.
Make a big deal at everyone of her accomplishments by telling her how proud you are.
You can say something like: "Good job, good girl, you did it" (with plenty excitement).
-Create other ways to bond with your child and ask daddy to do the same.
Give your baby a warm bath, then, massage her gently while talking to her softly.
Enjoy your baby and let her enjoy you.
Older Kids- -Give chores to your kids accordingly (based on age) starting at as young as 2 or 3.
It will develop good working skills and give them a sense of accomplishments and it will be easy for them to continue doing.
If you are asking yourself why your 8 year old hates chores so much, my answer to you may be because you waited too long.
My 3 year old daughter enjoys washing her plates when she finishes eating and fixes her bed.
-Do not embarrass your child in front of others (many of us have been guilty of that).
That is a big no-no.
This will make your child too shy and in turn lower their self-esteem.
-Always compliment them for their accomplishments even when they do something as small as tying their shoe laces.
-Get rid of negative words.
This is so important.
Even in the most positive households, there are many negative words of them circulating.
Remember, a child learns through repetition.
If you tell your child even jokingly: "you are bad", it will only eventually make them bad.
Turn negative into positive.
Instead of telling your child "you are bad"; switch it to "be good".
Instead of telling you child "you are a liar or you lie too much", switch it to "you have to be truthful or tell the truth".
Enough positive repetition will eventually sink into their heads and there is an 80% chance that they will start doing just that.
- Always tell them how much you love them and show them appreciation.
When they get something done, tell them you are proud of them.
-Don't ever belittle them.
Listen to them when they want to talk and give them your undivided attention as much as you can.
- Show them life skills.
My 2 boys, 10 and 8 years old, can cook a full meal.
My 10 year old can change a flat tire and many more things.
-Last but not least, teach them how to develop good character and instill fear of God in them.
They are our future leaders and community builders.
If we prepare them as we should, we can help shape their future to become productive human beings.
Sometimes, we cause our kids to develop low self-esteem and it can become hard for them to repair the damages even when becoming an adult.
There are many simple ways we can build up our child self-esteem starting from infancy.
Here are some quick, simple and easy ways to boost up children's self-esteem: Your baby- -Smile at your baby every time she looks into your eyes.
That will make her feel good and confident of your love for her.
-When your baby wants to be held, pick her up.
Do not be fooled by anyone saying you are spoiling your baby.
It's a natural thing for babies to want to be held.
And expecting them to not cry to be held is really ridiculous.
That's what babies do people; they cry to communicate and expect to be responded to.
-Do "baby wearing" if you can.
"Baby wearing" is the closest, natural way you can carry your child.
It gives them the same feeling of security as when they were in your belly.
There have been many researches related to the benefit of "baby wearing" -Get to the habit of complimenting her.
Make a big deal at everyone of her accomplishments by telling her how proud you are.
You can say something like: "Good job, good girl, you did it" (with plenty excitement).
-Create other ways to bond with your child and ask daddy to do the same.
Give your baby a warm bath, then, massage her gently while talking to her softly.
Enjoy your baby and let her enjoy you.
Older Kids- -Give chores to your kids accordingly (based on age) starting at as young as 2 or 3.
It will develop good working skills and give them a sense of accomplishments and it will be easy for them to continue doing.
If you are asking yourself why your 8 year old hates chores so much, my answer to you may be because you waited too long.
My 3 year old daughter enjoys washing her plates when she finishes eating and fixes her bed.
-Do not embarrass your child in front of others (many of us have been guilty of that).
That is a big no-no.
This will make your child too shy and in turn lower their self-esteem.
-Always compliment them for their accomplishments even when they do something as small as tying their shoe laces.
-Get rid of negative words.
This is so important.
Even in the most positive households, there are many negative words of them circulating.
Remember, a child learns through repetition.
If you tell your child even jokingly: "you are bad", it will only eventually make them bad.
Turn negative into positive.
Instead of telling your child "you are bad"; switch it to "be good".
Instead of telling you child "you are a liar or you lie too much", switch it to "you have to be truthful or tell the truth".
Enough positive repetition will eventually sink into their heads and there is an 80% chance that they will start doing just that.
- Always tell them how much you love them and show them appreciation.
When they get something done, tell them you are proud of them.
-Don't ever belittle them.
Listen to them when they want to talk and give them your undivided attention as much as you can.
- Show them life skills.
My 2 boys, 10 and 8 years old, can cook a full meal.
My 10 year old can change a flat tire and many more things.
-Last but not least, teach them how to develop good character and instill fear of God in them.