"Experts" often say that it's never too hard to let go of a grown child but as always, it's easier said than done because even though it's a simple part of the child's growing process, for parents who have been there for their child for a long time, there's no such easy way to do it.
However, no matter how hard it is, it is important for parents to know that it is essential and important to the child's emotional and mental well-being as well as to their adjustment that you, as your child's parents, let go and give them the chance to find their own world or their own place in this world.
In fact, you'll never know unless you've been there.
Try asking those parents who have tried and they'll tell you that letting go and letting your child find his place is actually a lot easier and simpler that it sounds.
It may involve different emotions you may have never felt and experienced in the past but for most parents, there is nothing as rewarding and as soul-piercing as seeing your own child jump head to all the firsts in his adult life.
You'll definitely be proud as any other parent could be.
Seeing your child doing well and making good decisions and judgments is perhaps the best thing that any parent like you could ever experience.
So, if you think it's now time to cut the apron strings, then why don't you accept it? If you still don't know how, then here are some useful advices that you can follow.
1.
Recognize that you've done a great job! You are your child's parent; you are not him or her.
You've got to remember this and when you it's time to let go, the simplest thing to think of is to tell yourself that you've done your job.
Recognize this accomplishment and tell yourself that it's a job well done and for sure, you'll be confident enough to see your child go.
2.
There's no turning back! Never ever regret the years you have spent taking care of your child.
Do not ever go back to the times that you have worried and cared about him or her and never ever think of the money that you have spent raising your child otherwise, you'll find it really hard to let go.
Just remember that you have done all these because you are a parent and it's your responsibility and obligation to grow him well.
3.
Always Keep in Touch Not because you're letting go of your child means that you'll be closing all the means of communication you have.
Your being a parent doesn't stop only because your child is going to live his life on his own.
You still have to be there for your child by always keeping in touch.
This way, you will feel that your child did not really leave you.
Remember that your child has his own life and destiny.
Your child's life and destiny is not yours to live or determine.
Thus, it is not right to keep with your child with you his whole life.
Accept this fact and for sure, you'll tell yourself, it's really never hard to let go!
However, no matter how hard it is, it is important for parents to know that it is essential and important to the child's emotional and mental well-being as well as to their adjustment that you, as your child's parents, let go and give them the chance to find their own world or their own place in this world.
In fact, you'll never know unless you've been there.
Try asking those parents who have tried and they'll tell you that letting go and letting your child find his place is actually a lot easier and simpler that it sounds.
It may involve different emotions you may have never felt and experienced in the past but for most parents, there is nothing as rewarding and as soul-piercing as seeing your own child jump head to all the firsts in his adult life.
You'll definitely be proud as any other parent could be.
Seeing your child doing well and making good decisions and judgments is perhaps the best thing that any parent like you could ever experience.
So, if you think it's now time to cut the apron strings, then why don't you accept it? If you still don't know how, then here are some useful advices that you can follow.
1.
Recognize that you've done a great job! You are your child's parent; you are not him or her.
You've got to remember this and when you it's time to let go, the simplest thing to think of is to tell yourself that you've done your job.
Recognize this accomplishment and tell yourself that it's a job well done and for sure, you'll be confident enough to see your child go.
2.
There's no turning back! Never ever regret the years you have spent taking care of your child.
Do not ever go back to the times that you have worried and cared about him or her and never ever think of the money that you have spent raising your child otherwise, you'll find it really hard to let go.
Just remember that you have done all these because you are a parent and it's your responsibility and obligation to grow him well.
3.
Always Keep in Touch Not because you're letting go of your child means that you'll be closing all the means of communication you have.
Your being a parent doesn't stop only because your child is going to live his life on his own.
You still have to be there for your child by always keeping in touch.
This way, you will feel that your child did not really leave you.
Remember that your child has his own life and destiny.
Your child's life and destiny is not yours to live or determine.
Thus, it is not right to keep with your child with you his whole life.
Accept this fact and for sure, you'll tell yourself, it's really never hard to let go!