The struggles that comes from an OCD relationship where you may have OCD or the person that you are with may have OCD can cause a lot of issues. I was the one in my relationship that had the OCD. My OCD relationship was horrible in the fact that I would always try to get my girlfriend to do rituals with me or for me and that put a huge strain on her and I. I really look back and shake my head for even letting myself give into it. The feeling at the time however was overwhelming before I learned how to stop it altogether. When you consider your OCD relationship, think about not asking your significant other to do rituals for you. If you are the person that does not have OCD, tell ther person that you are with that you care but that you cannot enable them by doing rituals for them, this is one of the best things that you could do!
Sometimes in your OCD relationship, the sufferer of OCD and the person who does not have it will hold the relationship hostage. If the person who has OCD in the OCD relationship says that they'll leave you if you don't do their rituals, let them do so. Do not let them hold the relationship over your head to make you do things. Trust me, there are other fish in the sea. Now more than ever, you need to think about whether you want to be trapped by someone that has OCD and who exploits your love for them to make them do things? Walk away. At the same time, if the person who does not have OCD in your OCD relationship tries to threaten to leave you if you keep having OCD, you should let this be a motivation to help you get rid of it. At the same time, make sure that you don't let them control you and hold the relationship hostage. Don't give into this mess either. Tell them that if they love you, that they will at least fight for you, but remember, they cannot and should not do rituals for you, so don't ask them too. And make sure to not talk about it with them more than once a week!
When we take a closer look at an OCD relationship, we see that in order for it to survive, the two people have to act as a team. If both people in the OCD relationship have OCD, then you both need to follow these rules. Don't give into eachother's whims and don't talk about it with eachother more than once a week. At the time that you plan to talk to eachother about it, you can share your goals with one another and challenge one another to complete those goals and you can even compete with one another to see who gave in to their OCD the least! This is a pretty picture isn't it? Of team work and of people who have a common goal who come together are willing to help one another reach eachother's goals. I know that was a mouthful, but I'm sure that you see what I'm talking about!
In an OCD relationship, it can be tough sometimes when the person that you are with refuses to work with you and is stubborn. It's tough when they will not try anything to stop their OCD. Make sure that you understand that sometimes you may have to leave someone if they choose their OCD over you. Make sure that you give them a fair chance in your mind to change, but if they keep leading you on, you can decide at any point that enough is enough. So make sure that you know that just suggesting that you would leave may be enough for this person to change their minds and actually want to be a grown up and work on their problem instead of giving into it!
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Derek J. Soto is an expert in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder who had it himself and beat it and now teaches others how to do the same.
Sometimes in your OCD relationship, the sufferer of OCD and the person who does not have it will hold the relationship hostage. If the person who has OCD in the OCD relationship says that they'll leave you if you don't do their rituals, let them do so. Do not let them hold the relationship over your head to make you do things. Trust me, there are other fish in the sea. Now more than ever, you need to think about whether you want to be trapped by someone that has OCD and who exploits your love for them to make them do things? Walk away. At the same time, if the person who does not have OCD in your OCD relationship tries to threaten to leave you if you keep having OCD, you should let this be a motivation to help you get rid of it. At the same time, make sure that you don't let them control you and hold the relationship hostage. Don't give into this mess either. Tell them that if they love you, that they will at least fight for you, but remember, they cannot and should not do rituals for you, so don't ask them too. And make sure to not talk about it with them more than once a week!
When we take a closer look at an OCD relationship, we see that in order for it to survive, the two people have to act as a team. If both people in the OCD relationship have OCD, then you both need to follow these rules. Don't give into eachother's whims and don't talk about it with eachother more than once a week. At the time that you plan to talk to eachother about it, you can share your goals with one another and challenge one another to complete those goals and you can even compete with one another to see who gave in to their OCD the least! This is a pretty picture isn't it? Of team work and of people who have a common goal who come together are willing to help one another reach eachother's goals. I know that was a mouthful, but I'm sure that you see what I'm talking about!
In an OCD relationship, it can be tough sometimes when the person that you are with refuses to work with you and is stubborn. It's tough when they will not try anything to stop their OCD. Make sure that you understand that sometimes you may have to leave someone if they choose their OCD over you. Make sure that you give them a fair chance in your mind to change, but if they keep leading you on, you can decide at any point that enough is enough. So make sure that you know that just suggesting that you would leave may be enough for this person to change their minds and actually want to be a grown up and work on their problem instead of giving into it!
Click here to get my OCD e-book for free: "OCD Relationship"
Derek J. Soto is an expert in Obsessive Compulsive Disorder who had it himself and beat it and now teaches others how to do the same.