A tragedy means different things to different people.
For some people a tragedy is losing a child, a parent, a close friend.
For others, it could be a business deal gone wrong, a divorce, a partner's malicious behavior.
So here are some simple steps which helped me move on with my life.
I believe they will help you too.
1.
Don't wallow in your past.
I know.
I know.
It's so easy to think back about the things you could have and might have said or done.
But the past is gone.
Finished.
History.
And in any case you can't change it.
So stop wallowing in your past and focus your attention on one or more of the simple steps below.
2.
Accept that whatever happened was meant to be.
We are not smart enough to fathom out why something has happened.
And often things happen which somehow turn out differently from what we thought at the time.
Sometimes good, sometimes bad.
But my point is that an event is not what it appeared to be and may eventually turn out to be positive even though it seemed bad at the time it happened.
3.
Try to find ways to keep yourself busy.
I cannot overemphasize that whenever you feel unhappy or depressed try to keep busy with something that occupies your time.
It could be just cleaning your home, doing the laundry, washing and drying dishes, writing notes to yourself...
anything that occupies you.
4.
Never allow yourself to be treated badly by others.
It's easy to say yes when you really want to say no.
And afterwards you kick yourself for having agreed to something you knew was wrong for you at the time.
The more you think about it the bigger it becomes and prevents you from moving on.
Here is the golden rule: you are treated in the way you allow yourself to be treated 5.
Laughing makes you feel better.
There's a funny side to everything.
So try to see the funny side of what has happened to you even though it is now making you sad.
And, in the worst case scenario, you have lost a close family member I am sure there are things they did which will bring a smile to your face and make you laugh.
6.
Don't search for revenge.
It's natural to want to get even if you believe you have been tricked by someone else.
But revenge is a no-no.
It makes you a prisoner of the past Be thankful that the person who tricked you is out of your life and you can now move on.
7.
Only worry about the bad things which could happen each day.
When you wake up tomorrow morning whatever worried you today will seem different and not so important.
One day at a time is good rule.
And besides, most of the things you have been worrying about will never happen.
So just move on with your life, one day at a time.
For some people a tragedy is losing a child, a parent, a close friend.
For others, it could be a business deal gone wrong, a divorce, a partner's malicious behavior.
So here are some simple steps which helped me move on with my life.
I believe they will help you too.
1.
Don't wallow in your past.
I know.
I know.
It's so easy to think back about the things you could have and might have said or done.
But the past is gone.
Finished.
History.
And in any case you can't change it.
So stop wallowing in your past and focus your attention on one or more of the simple steps below.
2.
Accept that whatever happened was meant to be.
We are not smart enough to fathom out why something has happened.
And often things happen which somehow turn out differently from what we thought at the time.
Sometimes good, sometimes bad.
But my point is that an event is not what it appeared to be and may eventually turn out to be positive even though it seemed bad at the time it happened.
3.
Try to find ways to keep yourself busy.
I cannot overemphasize that whenever you feel unhappy or depressed try to keep busy with something that occupies your time.
It could be just cleaning your home, doing the laundry, washing and drying dishes, writing notes to yourself...
anything that occupies you.
4.
Never allow yourself to be treated badly by others.
It's easy to say yes when you really want to say no.
And afterwards you kick yourself for having agreed to something you knew was wrong for you at the time.
The more you think about it the bigger it becomes and prevents you from moving on.
Here is the golden rule: you are treated in the way you allow yourself to be treated 5.
Laughing makes you feel better.
There's a funny side to everything.
So try to see the funny side of what has happened to you even though it is now making you sad.
And, in the worst case scenario, you have lost a close family member I am sure there are things they did which will bring a smile to your face and make you laugh.
6.
Don't search for revenge.
It's natural to want to get even if you believe you have been tricked by someone else.
But revenge is a no-no.
It makes you a prisoner of the past Be thankful that the person who tricked you is out of your life and you can now move on.
7.
Only worry about the bad things which could happen each day.
When you wake up tomorrow morning whatever worried you today will seem different and not so important.
One day at a time is good rule.
And besides, most of the things you have been worrying about will never happen.
So just move on with your life, one day at a time.