Ever hear the words, "I don't want to be me", from someone and your heart is nearly breaking? When I hear a youngster say something along these lines, I recognize the feeling! All too often young people think they are the only ones who have ever experienced such great disgrace or sinned so greatly.
It is a very important time to respond properly to these tender hearts, learning how to lighten their load, bringing them hope is crucial when you hear these words.
Teaching how to like who you are, is sometimes tricky, in the face of this world we live in, where the value of a human being is gauged by the virtual world and the mythical lives of those who have become modern day heroes to our children.
Finding the core problem to these thoughts is a sensitive matter.
How you go about it, as well as what you have previously established in your relationship, is of great importance.
If your child comes to you and is still open to your input, you are fortunate.
Recognizing when the issue is beyond your expertise, is as crucial as any matter you have faced before.
Most times we can spend time listening, supporting, comforting and encouraging our children and realize a turnaround in their depressed attitudes, however the times we are incapable of releasing them from the shackles of depression, we need to seek professional help.
Do not be too proud to first recognize the need for help where there is an issue that is beyond your ability, nor too proud to share with your child your inability to help.
Honesty is imperative, let them know you don't think you have all the answers, but you want to help! Many times these types of situations can be avoided by the interest we show in our children, how much we genuinely care about what their lives feel like to them, how they comprehend who they are.
Who their heroes are, will tell you much of what they are going through.
Be a student of your children, listen when they speak to you, care about their immature conversations, desire to be their friend, not just friendly! Help them to become who they "want to be"! Cheryl G Burke http://www.
Cherylgburke.
com
It is a very important time to respond properly to these tender hearts, learning how to lighten their load, bringing them hope is crucial when you hear these words.
Teaching how to like who you are, is sometimes tricky, in the face of this world we live in, where the value of a human being is gauged by the virtual world and the mythical lives of those who have become modern day heroes to our children.
Finding the core problem to these thoughts is a sensitive matter.
How you go about it, as well as what you have previously established in your relationship, is of great importance.
If your child comes to you and is still open to your input, you are fortunate.
Recognizing when the issue is beyond your expertise, is as crucial as any matter you have faced before.
Most times we can spend time listening, supporting, comforting and encouraging our children and realize a turnaround in their depressed attitudes, however the times we are incapable of releasing them from the shackles of depression, we need to seek professional help.
Do not be too proud to first recognize the need for help where there is an issue that is beyond your ability, nor too proud to share with your child your inability to help.
Honesty is imperative, let them know you don't think you have all the answers, but you want to help! Many times these types of situations can be avoided by the interest we show in our children, how much we genuinely care about what their lives feel like to them, how they comprehend who they are.
Who their heroes are, will tell you much of what they are going through.
Be a student of your children, listen when they speak to you, care about their immature conversations, desire to be their friend, not just friendly! Help them to become who they "want to be"! Cheryl G Burke http://www.
Cherylgburke.
com