The second love language is acts of service.
We spoke briefly about the love language of words of affirmation the other day, now it's time to talk about acts of service.
Watching the way people react to other people gives us an indication as to what their love language is.
For instance, if you find someone who looks for nice things about other people and compliments them, or says encouraging things to others, then it is most likely that their love language is words of affirmation.
If someone is always doing things for others, then theirs is likely to be acts of service.
Just observe others and especially your children to see how they respond to their playmates.
Initially it seems that children have all the love languages and to some extent this is true.
Over time, as they develop, they will show signs of having just one major one and some secondary ones.
Knowing about all the five love languages, being sensitive to others and observing them, as well as applying them will reap huge rewards.
Going back to the love language of acts of service.
I will give you an example.
My love language is acts of service.
It used to frustrate me when the children were young (before we learned about this amazing secret) that Terry (my husband) would tell me he loved me a dozen times a day (his love language is words of affirmation so that is the way he communicated love to me), however, I used to think, "If he really loves me he would put the rubbish out, make me a coffee, put the kids in the bath, etc", but he used to sit down and tell me he loved me.
I never understood that.
My reasoning was that you showed someone your love, or how much you cared - by your actions! Rather simple, hey? When we learned this stuff, he would put the rubbish out and make me coffee sometimes without being asked to do it.
That was just wonderful for me and I just appreciated and loved him so much for just doing those little things.
It made me feel loved How easy can that be done to everyone, including children.
Have you tried showing your child how much you love and appreciate them.
When was the last time you read a book to them? What about just doing special things for them? It works for children, adults, even pets! I know that just applying these last two love languages have transformed our marriage and life enormously.
Applying the love languages is as easy as finding out what the other persons love language is and treating them in the way they treat others.
Those who do acts of service to others, like the same returned.
Those who practice words of affirmation can be blown away by your speaking words of affirmation to them.
Try reading to your child, that's an act of service and you will help to develop a love for learning that will grow with your child forever.
Change your world a little at a time by applying the five love languages starting now.
Love language number 3 coming soon
We spoke briefly about the love language of words of affirmation the other day, now it's time to talk about acts of service.
Watching the way people react to other people gives us an indication as to what their love language is.
For instance, if you find someone who looks for nice things about other people and compliments them, or says encouraging things to others, then it is most likely that their love language is words of affirmation.
If someone is always doing things for others, then theirs is likely to be acts of service.
Just observe others and especially your children to see how they respond to their playmates.
Initially it seems that children have all the love languages and to some extent this is true.
Over time, as they develop, they will show signs of having just one major one and some secondary ones.
Knowing about all the five love languages, being sensitive to others and observing them, as well as applying them will reap huge rewards.
Going back to the love language of acts of service.
I will give you an example.
My love language is acts of service.
It used to frustrate me when the children were young (before we learned about this amazing secret) that Terry (my husband) would tell me he loved me a dozen times a day (his love language is words of affirmation so that is the way he communicated love to me), however, I used to think, "If he really loves me he would put the rubbish out, make me a coffee, put the kids in the bath, etc", but he used to sit down and tell me he loved me.
I never understood that.
My reasoning was that you showed someone your love, or how much you cared - by your actions! Rather simple, hey? When we learned this stuff, he would put the rubbish out and make me coffee sometimes without being asked to do it.
That was just wonderful for me and I just appreciated and loved him so much for just doing those little things.
It made me feel loved How easy can that be done to everyone, including children.
Have you tried showing your child how much you love and appreciate them.
When was the last time you read a book to them? What about just doing special things for them? It works for children, adults, even pets! I know that just applying these last two love languages have transformed our marriage and life enormously.
Applying the love languages is as easy as finding out what the other persons love language is and treating them in the way they treat others.
Those who do acts of service to others, like the same returned.
Those who practice words of affirmation can be blown away by your speaking words of affirmation to them.
Try reading to your child, that's an act of service and you will help to develop a love for learning that will grow with your child forever.
Change your world a little at a time by applying the five love languages starting now.
Love language number 3 coming soon