Conversation is the very first step in improving your relationships with another person or persons.
It takes time and effort to build a relationship in the beginning.
A relationship can be damaged over time or in the blink of an eye as a result of events under or not under your control.
Every relationship is unique and built around different cornerstones.
You need to change the way you approach conversations in a relationship if you're trying to improve that relationship.
Have you ever tried to talk to someone while they were talking to you? When this happens, each person is talking but not listening very well.
This is a situation destined for trouble or confusion.
Try not to let this happen in the instances where you're in the process of improving your relationships.
You will find yourself tripping over your words and not progressing in the direction you prefer.
Try to be conscious at all times of the other person and give them ample time to express themselves.
This is just common courtesy.
There are rules in our society that govern the way we converse with other individuals.
These unwritten rules are in existence no matter what the conversation is about.
Some of these rules to consider when you are in consideration of improving your relationships are things we learn as we mature.
Rules like "Don't make too much eye contact," and "Don't ask too many questions" are on that list of rules.
When a relationship is in trouble and seems to be going nowhere or deteriorating, we tend to ask ourselves where the problem lies.
Is it you or the other person that's hurting the relationship? Seldom do we see the issue as being both individuals.
The same thing exists in the unwritten rules of conversation.
It is critical that you pinpoint these rules in yourself and whether you agree or disagree with them.
This is especially true when improving your relationships is an important element in your life.
Recognize and write down these rules and make special note of when you do and do not agree with them.
You need to sort out all the things that are hindering you from accomplishing your objective to improve that valued relationship with another individual.
As an example, the rule "Don't share your most inner thoughts with someone" may have been appropriate when you were single but is not going to get you far in the love relationship with your spouse.
You also need to consider where is the appropriate place and when is the right time to have a particular conversation.
It's OK to have an average conversation in a department store or when you're around other people not included in your relationship.
However, you should probably avoid a serious discussion or even an argument in the same setting.
In addition, decide whether you want to talk from your heart in a public environment or save it for when more intimacy is warranted.
It's critical to speak from your heart if you are serious about improving your relationships.
This implies saying those things that are indeed true in your mind.
You don't have to accept every unwritten rule in specific types of conversations.
If you disagree with a rule then you can change or alter it.
What's important is that you are in agreement with the rule with the other individual in the relationship.
You can accept or create the rules that are appropriate between the other individual and you.
Keep in mind the overall objective is improving your relationships and not destroying them.
When you're trying to improve a certain relationship, you might want to consider asking the following questions when starting your conversation to break old rules and adopt new rules and help set the tone: 1.
Can we try something new and forget the usual rules of conversation in our discussion? 2.
Are you following any unwritten rules of conversation that I should know? 3.
Will you listen to what I have to say even though it may be difficult for you to listen? 4.
Is it OK if you listen while I complete my point in our conversation? 5.
Are you willing to take turns in talking and listening? As mentioned earlier, the objective of your conversation is to find ways of improving your relationships with the other individual.
You should ask questions at the beginning of the conversation that could be beneficial for both of you during the conversation.
It takes time and effort to build a relationship in the beginning.
A relationship can be damaged over time or in the blink of an eye as a result of events under or not under your control.
Every relationship is unique and built around different cornerstones.
You need to change the way you approach conversations in a relationship if you're trying to improve that relationship.
Have you ever tried to talk to someone while they were talking to you? When this happens, each person is talking but not listening very well.
This is a situation destined for trouble or confusion.
Try not to let this happen in the instances where you're in the process of improving your relationships.
You will find yourself tripping over your words and not progressing in the direction you prefer.
Try to be conscious at all times of the other person and give them ample time to express themselves.
This is just common courtesy.
There are rules in our society that govern the way we converse with other individuals.
These unwritten rules are in existence no matter what the conversation is about.
Some of these rules to consider when you are in consideration of improving your relationships are things we learn as we mature.
Rules like "Don't make too much eye contact," and "Don't ask too many questions" are on that list of rules.
When a relationship is in trouble and seems to be going nowhere or deteriorating, we tend to ask ourselves where the problem lies.
Is it you or the other person that's hurting the relationship? Seldom do we see the issue as being both individuals.
The same thing exists in the unwritten rules of conversation.
It is critical that you pinpoint these rules in yourself and whether you agree or disagree with them.
This is especially true when improving your relationships is an important element in your life.
Recognize and write down these rules and make special note of when you do and do not agree with them.
You need to sort out all the things that are hindering you from accomplishing your objective to improve that valued relationship with another individual.
As an example, the rule "Don't share your most inner thoughts with someone" may have been appropriate when you were single but is not going to get you far in the love relationship with your spouse.
You also need to consider where is the appropriate place and when is the right time to have a particular conversation.
It's OK to have an average conversation in a department store or when you're around other people not included in your relationship.
However, you should probably avoid a serious discussion or even an argument in the same setting.
In addition, decide whether you want to talk from your heart in a public environment or save it for when more intimacy is warranted.
It's critical to speak from your heart if you are serious about improving your relationships.
This implies saying those things that are indeed true in your mind.
You don't have to accept every unwritten rule in specific types of conversations.
If you disagree with a rule then you can change or alter it.
What's important is that you are in agreement with the rule with the other individual in the relationship.
You can accept or create the rules that are appropriate between the other individual and you.
Keep in mind the overall objective is improving your relationships and not destroying them.
When you're trying to improve a certain relationship, you might want to consider asking the following questions when starting your conversation to break old rules and adopt new rules and help set the tone: 1.
Can we try something new and forget the usual rules of conversation in our discussion? 2.
Are you following any unwritten rules of conversation that I should know? 3.
Will you listen to what I have to say even though it may be difficult for you to listen? 4.
Is it OK if you listen while I complete my point in our conversation? 5.
Are you willing to take turns in talking and listening? As mentioned earlier, the objective of your conversation is to find ways of improving your relationships with the other individual.
You should ask questions at the beginning of the conversation that could be beneficial for both of you during the conversation.