Men, Improve Your Marriage by Doing Simple Small Things
I am willing to bet EVERY man is guilty of not doing enough chores around the house, assuming you are in a relationship where the woman tends to do most of the cleaning, cooking, etc...
Believe it or not, it's details like chores that make women happy.
It's your way of taking 1 less item off their plate, but also showing you believe in a balance in the household.
Of course, if you are a dominant male who goes to work, comes home, and expects everything to be handed on a platter..
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either your marriage isn't as happy as you think, or you live in the minority of couples.
If you do live the one sided marriage where your wife takes on all household responsibilities, then trying to step up to the plate and taking a few of the chores off her plate.
Assuming your marriage is relatively stable to begin with, I can almost guarantee 100% that when repeated over weeks, your marriage will improve, communication will improve, she will be showing you more appreciation, and the aura in your relationship will feel better.
Types of things you can do are:
If you just go through the motions, in your wife's eyes it will be meaningless and it will only cause more issues.
On a personal front, I am facing this exact same problem.
I work long hours, essentially multiple jobs and I take for granted many of the great things my wife does around the house.
I do take out the trash, clean the dishes, and even vacuum.
However, I know I should be ramping up the quantity of times doing that versus every once in a while.
A relationship takes two people who need to communicate, share responsibilities, respect one another, know when to sacrifice, and treat one another how you expect to get treated.
A good marriage isn't difficult to have.
It does take work, it takes time, but if you employ just small things such as chores, listening, foot rubs, and more...
it really makes a night and day difference in how you feel about one another.
Treat this as a baby step.
Start doing the chores because you want to.
Don't tell your wife you are doing them, don't highlight that you did them expecting praise, etc...
just do them as a part of your day.
Sooner versus later, your wife will notice and compliment you.
Even if your wife doesn't say anything for weeks or you get in an argument about it...
stand strong and continue doing the chores regardless.
With time (days, weeks, or even a month) she will get the point you are doing it out of your heart and she will appreciate you for it.
Trust me on this, it WILL happen.
Your marriage will improve because of it.
This topic was on the radio recently, and the topic was whether men get more sex because of doing chores often.
The results were an extremely high percentage "yes".
So think of that as an additional benefit.
Believe it or not, it's details like chores that make women happy.
It's your way of taking 1 less item off their plate, but also showing you believe in a balance in the household.
Of course, if you are a dominant male who goes to work, comes home, and expects everything to be handed on a platter..
..
either your marriage isn't as happy as you think, or you live in the minority of couples.
If you do live the one sided marriage where your wife takes on all household responsibilities, then trying to step up to the plate and taking a few of the chores off her plate.
Assuming your marriage is relatively stable to begin with, I can almost guarantee 100% that when repeated over weeks, your marriage will improve, communication will improve, she will be showing you more appreciation, and the aura in your relationship will feel better.
Types of things you can do are:
- Taking out the trash
- Doing the dishes
- vacuuming
- Cleaning the bathrooms (big plus)
If you just go through the motions, in your wife's eyes it will be meaningless and it will only cause more issues.
On a personal front, I am facing this exact same problem.
I work long hours, essentially multiple jobs and I take for granted many of the great things my wife does around the house.
I do take out the trash, clean the dishes, and even vacuum.
However, I know I should be ramping up the quantity of times doing that versus every once in a while.
A relationship takes two people who need to communicate, share responsibilities, respect one another, know when to sacrifice, and treat one another how you expect to get treated.
A good marriage isn't difficult to have.
It does take work, it takes time, but if you employ just small things such as chores, listening, foot rubs, and more...
it really makes a night and day difference in how you feel about one another.
Treat this as a baby step.
Start doing the chores because you want to.
Don't tell your wife you are doing them, don't highlight that you did them expecting praise, etc...
just do them as a part of your day.
Sooner versus later, your wife will notice and compliment you.
Even if your wife doesn't say anything for weeks or you get in an argument about it...
stand strong and continue doing the chores regardless.
With time (days, weeks, or even a month) she will get the point you are doing it out of your heart and she will appreciate you for it.
Trust me on this, it WILL happen.
Your marriage will improve because of it.
This topic was on the radio recently, and the topic was whether men get more sex because of doing chores often.
The results were an extremely high percentage "yes".
So think of that as an additional benefit.