For many a woman making her man a male chastity cuckold - literally taking another lover from outside the primary relationship and having him fulfill her sexual needs - bridges the gap between her previous sex-life and her new role as a keyholder for her man.
Why Make Him a Chastity Cuckold?
The reason she does this is her man is locked in chastity and even if he's allowed to have penetrative sex with her, he's not allowed to orgasm. And, as I've written before, while most people write about the lifestyle from the man's point of view and claim how hard it is on him, to my way of thinking and in my experience, the woman shares the burden equally.
Not only does she have to consider her man's needs within the context of the lifestyle, but she also misses out on much of what she previously took for granted.
And speaking as a woman myself, there is no substitute for making love to a man properly and have it come - if you'll forgive the pun - to its natural conclusion. Making your man a male chastity cuckold can solve this problem.
However, despite the hot fantasy (and it is a hot fantasy, of that there is no doubt) the reality is more prosaic and potentially more problematic.
The trouble is it's difficult for us to think about the fantasy without engaging our emotions, and doing that tends to make us blind to the possible logical consequences of our actions. And once you've had sex with another man outside your primary relationship, you can't undo that action, regardless of the effect it has on your man.
And believe me, the reality is often far, far different from the fantasy.
The fantasy of the male chastity cuckold is that he's somehow "involved"; but the reality is, he often isn't. Even if he's present (which he's often not, and is in any case no guarantee of a trouble-free experience), once the passion and the desire rise, you'll be focused on your lover, not your real partner.
And while he might be able to handle this... he might not. If he can't, then you've just unleashed hell into your relationship. There can be no going back: jealousy, anger, recriminations... they can all conspire to destroy your relationship even though before the event you were convinced - both of you genuinely convinced - everything would be fine.
Aside from the potential emotional turmoil, there are other more practical considerations if you decide to make your man a male chastity cuckold:
It's important to understand I'm not making any moral proscription here: it's not the same as simple infidelity or having an affair because your husband not only knows about it, but he's often in favour of it, too.
No, I'm merely suggesting you view it dispassionately in the cold light of day and really think through the possible consequences before you do anything rash and later regret it.
In my marriage, I am fortunate in that I don't want to make John a male chastity cuckold. Not only does he satisfy me intellectually, physically and emotionally, but I know myself well enough to know I can't make love to a man without having an emotional connection with him, and that's not the kind of trouble I want to invite into my marriage.
It's an easy decision for me to make because I no one could ever measure up to the man I'm married to, and my not having him orgasm with me when we make love as often as I'd perhaps like him to is a small price to pay considering the other benefits of the lifestyle I enjoy.
However I also know the concept of having your husband as a male chastity cuckold is exciting and very, very sexy.
Just remember there are potential problems with it; what's more, don't rely on what you read about it in forums and on blogs. These posts do not accurately reflect reality and in any case other people's experience is no substitute for knowing your own mind.
In short, what works for them might not work for you... and if you want to discover more about male chastity and cuckolding then...
Why Make Him a Chastity Cuckold?
The reason she does this is her man is locked in chastity and even if he's allowed to have penetrative sex with her, he's not allowed to orgasm. And, as I've written before, while most people write about the lifestyle from the man's point of view and claim how hard it is on him, to my way of thinking and in my experience, the woman shares the burden equally.
Not only does she have to consider her man's needs within the context of the lifestyle, but she also misses out on much of what she previously took for granted.
And speaking as a woman myself, there is no substitute for making love to a man properly and have it come - if you'll forgive the pun - to its natural conclusion. Making your man a male chastity cuckold can solve this problem.
However, despite the hot fantasy (and it is a hot fantasy, of that there is no doubt) the reality is more prosaic and potentially more problematic.
The trouble is it's difficult for us to think about the fantasy without engaging our emotions, and doing that tends to make us blind to the possible logical consequences of our actions. And once you've had sex with another man outside your primary relationship, you can't undo that action, regardless of the effect it has on your man.
And believe me, the reality is often far, far different from the fantasy.
The fantasy of the male chastity cuckold is that he's somehow "involved"; but the reality is, he often isn't. Even if he's present (which he's often not, and is in any case no guarantee of a trouble-free experience), once the passion and the desire rise, you'll be focused on your lover, not your real partner.
And while he might be able to handle this... he might not. If he can't, then you've just unleashed hell into your relationship. There can be no going back: jealousy, anger, recriminations... they can all conspire to destroy your relationship even though before the event you were convinced - both of you genuinely convinced - everything would be fine.
Aside from the potential emotional turmoil, there are other more practical considerations if you decide to make your man a male chastity cuckold:
- Disease. Yes, I know, you've heard it all before. And however unlikely it is to happen to you, it does happen. It's a risk you're taking and one you must be prepared to accept the consequences of if the worst should happen. And remember, some sexually transmitted diseases are fatal (and might be so for both of you). You're only as safe as your new lover's last partner and his honesty!
- Pregnancy. This, too, happens. How is it going to affect your life and relationship with your husband if you become pregnant by another man. How will you feel? What would you do? Have the baby? Have an abortion? Neither of these is without practical and emotional consequences of their own. Be careful - your male chastity cuckold might not exactly be thrilled at your having another man's child in his life.
- Your new lover's emotions. Never mind the effect on you and your husband... how will you handle it if your new lover falls head over heels in love with you? What if you fall in love with him? Things can very quickly and easily turn very nasty.
It's important to understand I'm not making any moral proscription here: it's not the same as simple infidelity or having an affair because your husband not only knows about it, but he's often in favour of it, too.
No, I'm merely suggesting you view it dispassionately in the cold light of day and really think through the possible consequences before you do anything rash and later regret it.
In my marriage, I am fortunate in that I don't want to make John a male chastity cuckold. Not only does he satisfy me intellectually, physically and emotionally, but I know myself well enough to know I can't make love to a man without having an emotional connection with him, and that's not the kind of trouble I want to invite into my marriage.
It's an easy decision for me to make because I no one could ever measure up to the man I'm married to, and my not having him orgasm with me when we make love as often as I'd perhaps like him to is a small price to pay considering the other benefits of the lifestyle I enjoy.
However I also know the concept of having your husband as a male chastity cuckold is exciting and very, very sexy.
Just remember there are potential problems with it; what's more, don't rely on what you read about it in forums and on blogs. These posts do not accurately reflect reality and in any case other people's experience is no substitute for knowing your own mind.
In short, what works for them might not work for you... and if you want to discover more about male chastity and cuckolding then...