One aspect of healthy self-esteem is allowing ourselves to expand and grow.
It is in fact a very natural tendency.
Sometimes, we unconsciously keep ourselves small because we feel some type of loyalty to people we love.
These people may be long past dead, yet we have incorporated their values into our life.
Our loyalty is more important than our development and life success.
We continue to play it small, even though we know we are capable of far better achievements.
It is so important to allow yourself to expand as much as possible.
This is what will bring true enrichment into your life.
Real loyalty is respecting yourself and your path in life.
This may mean leaving home, a group of kind people, or adopting new values that support your path in life.
You show people the deepest love and respect by admitting that they can get on very well without you.
If they belong to your family or close friends, you can let them take part in your growth and success, once you have made the breakthrough.
There are certain clues, which will help you recognize if you are holding yourself back and preventing yourself from living the life you long for.
Somehow, you often feel that you are not your real self in certain circumstances.
You notice that you are maintaining a behavior that is conflicting with your feelings, your breathing is flat.
A sense of guilt may even occur.
You feel something is wrong, something is missing.
The body does not function so well: migraine, backaches, heart problems can be some of the signals.
The first requirement for changing this situation is to be aware of it.
It takes courage and a clear decision to become authentic to your own needs.
If this behavioral pattern has been predominant for many years, it may require professional help to change it.
However, sometimes awareness may be sufficient.
You begin learning to understand this behavior.
You commit to being true to yourself.
This will help you live your life fully and authentically.
Keep a diary of the situations, where you felt uncomfortable but kept a straight face all the time.
Go through these situations in your mind, and react them again in your imagination, but replacing your behavior with one that you feel is far more truthful to your inner self.
Eventually, you will find yourself becoming more authentic and have the courage to lead the life you really want.
It is in fact a very natural tendency.
Sometimes, we unconsciously keep ourselves small because we feel some type of loyalty to people we love.
These people may be long past dead, yet we have incorporated their values into our life.
Our loyalty is more important than our development and life success.
We continue to play it small, even though we know we are capable of far better achievements.
It is so important to allow yourself to expand as much as possible.
This is what will bring true enrichment into your life.
Real loyalty is respecting yourself and your path in life.
This may mean leaving home, a group of kind people, or adopting new values that support your path in life.
You show people the deepest love and respect by admitting that they can get on very well without you.
If they belong to your family or close friends, you can let them take part in your growth and success, once you have made the breakthrough.
There are certain clues, which will help you recognize if you are holding yourself back and preventing yourself from living the life you long for.
Somehow, you often feel that you are not your real self in certain circumstances.
You notice that you are maintaining a behavior that is conflicting with your feelings, your breathing is flat.
A sense of guilt may even occur.
You feel something is wrong, something is missing.
The body does not function so well: migraine, backaches, heart problems can be some of the signals.
The first requirement for changing this situation is to be aware of it.
It takes courage and a clear decision to become authentic to your own needs.
If this behavioral pattern has been predominant for many years, it may require professional help to change it.
However, sometimes awareness may be sufficient.
You begin learning to understand this behavior.
You commit to being true to yourself.
This will help you live your life fully and authentically.
Keep a diary of the situations, where you felt uncomfortable but kept a straight face all the time.
Go through these situations in your mind, and react them again in your imagination, but replacing your behavior with one that you feel is far more truthful to your inner self.
Eventually, you will find yourself becoming more authentic and have the courage to lead the life you really want.