Jat Matrimony - An Exuberant Affair
The first and foremost custom that is followed in Jat matrimony is sagai or engagement. Many factors are taken into consideration before deciding on the right match. These factors are health, age, income, financial background, family background, looks and appearance. Rings are exchanged during the engagement ceremony which is a formal affair between the couple and their respective families. Another popular custom is sending invitations to maternal uncles by the mother of the groom.
Jat Matrimony begins with Ganesh Pujan, to seek his blessings. Lord Ganesha is considered a Vighnaharta and seeking his blessings allows the marriage festivities to continue without any untoward happenings. Another custom followed is haldi in which a paste made up of grounded ghee, turmeric and barley is applied to the bride and the groom. It is believed to enhance the beauty of the couple. Banori is another custom in which the bride and the groom do not eat food at their respective houses. They have their first meals at the house of a priest known as Baman Banori. Later, the meals can be taken at the house of some close relatives.
Henna application or pithi is the next tradition that is followed in the Jat matrimony. In this tradition, mehendi or henna is applied on the hands of the bride and sometimes the groom. Generally a small round spot is made and is left open for the hathleva ceremony. Before the ceremony of pheras one more custom is followed in which all relatives gathered for the ceremony feast on a recipe made of daal and rice known as khichdi during lunch. The Brides side organizes a get together known as mel for all relatives a day before the marriage.
The Jat matrimony is solemnized under a beautifully decorated mandap which is basically a canopy that stands on four pillars. This is an important aspect of ceremony where Lord Agni himself stands witness to the auspicious occasion. Maternal uncles of the mother of the bride and groom bring gifts for the family members and this ceremony is known as maayara which is basically a financial assistance in the marriage. Another tradition that is followed is chaak puja in which the potters wheel is worshipped.
The wedding attire of both the bride and the groom is beautiful. The groom ties a turban on his head and puts a sarpech in front. It is generally made up of gold and is embellished with diamonds, rubies and emeralds. The bride wears heavily embellished red colored lehenga, choonri and kurti. She wears lots of heavy jewellery that generally comes from the grooms home.
As evening arrives, the groom goes to the brides house in a lavish procession with lot of fun and gaiety. This ceremony is known as baraat nikasi. His family members, close relatives, acquaintances and friends accompany him. There is lot of dance and music on the way to brides house. The groom rides on a horse which is also decorated. When the baraat reaches the brides home, it is welcomed by the family members of the bride. Here the groom performs a ritual of toran which is actually a symbolic victory. Later the bride and groom are taken to a stage where they exchange garlands and the ceremony is known as varmala. Last ceremony in the Jat matrimony is the very auspicious saat phere wherein the bride and the groom circle around the holy fire and promise to stay together all their life.