4 Situations Where You Might Want To Give Him Another Chance
When things start to settle after you have broken up with a guy you were dating and you start to have some time to reflect on things, you might start to get the idea that the break up was not really the way to go. You might start to have some doubts about whether or not you should have tried to work things out with him. Maybe you feel like you could have given him some time to try and be a better boyfriend. There are situations where it certainly wouldn't be that bad of an idea to give him another chance.
Let's look at 4 possible situations where you might want to give him one more chance:
1) You felt like he could have given you more attention, but at the same time, you didn't always express that need.
You can't expect a guy to read your mind, can you? Well, it might be nice if they could, but that is kind of expecting too much. While it is important that you do get the attention that you want from a guy you are seeing, if you didn't really express that desire to him clearly enough, then what chance did he have to try and make up for it? This definitely could be one of those situations where you might want to give him another chance to see if he can give you the attention that you wanted.
2) You felt like you just did not have enough in common, but you didn't try to like the things that he did and vice-versa.
While we can have expectations of meeting someone who is exactly like us and wants to do all of the things that we want to do, that doesn't always happen. However, that does not mean that you can't have a good relationship if you don't have a lot in common. If both people (you and him) are willing to explore the things that the other one likes, you never know what could happen. You might actually find out that you do have more common ground than you thought you did.
3) He cheated on you once and only once and he came clean about it.'
I wouldn't dare say that this is a situation where you definitely should give him another chance to be in a relationship with you. However, if it truly was just a one time thing and he was the one who came clean about it, that does show that he cared enough and probably felt guilty enough because he cared to fess up to what he did. That doesn't excuse the behavior, but it does show that he is adult enough to take responsibility and that he might be worth forgiving, provided of course that he never does it again.
4) You argued over little things but other than that, things were good.
This goes back to having unreal expectations about relationships. Even couples that are really good for each other have times when they just can't see eye to eye on the small things. That doesn't always matter though, if you can work things out on a bigger picture level. This is also one of those situations where it might be a good idea to see if you can work things out and just accept the fact that you might have some small spats over little things here and there.
Let's look at 4 possible situations where you might want to give him one more chance:
1) You felt like he could have given you more attention, but at the same time, you didn't always express that need.
You can't expect a guy to read your mind, can you? Well, it might be nice if they could, but that is kind of expecting too much. While it is important that you do get the attention that you want from a guy you are seeing, if you didn't really express that desire to him clearly enough, then what chance did he have to try and make up for it? This definitely could be one of those situations where you might want to give him another chance to see if he can give you the attention that you wanted.
2) You felt like you just did not have enough in common, but you didn't try to like the things that he did and vice-versa.
While we can have expectations of meeting someone who is exactly like us and wants to do all of the things that we want to do, that doesn't always happen. However, that does not mean that you can't have a good relationship if you don't have a lot in common. If both people (you and him) are willing to explore the things that the other one likes, you never know what could happen. You might actually find out that you do have more common ground than you thought you did.
3) He cheated on you once and only once and he came clean about it.'
I wouldn't dare say that this is a situation where you definitely should give him another chance to be in a relationship with you. However, if it truly was just a one time thing and he was the one who came clean about it, that does show that he cared enough and probably felt guilty enough because he cared to fess up to what he did. That doesn't excuse the behavior, but it does show that he is adult enough to take responsibility and that he might be worth forgiving, provided of course that he never does it again.
4) You argued over little things but other than that, things were good.
This goes back to having unreal expectations about relationships. Even couples that are really good for each other have times when they just can't see eye to eye on the small things. That doesn't always matter though, if you can work things out on a bigger picture level. This is also one of those situations where it might be a good idea to see if you can work things out and just accept the fact that you might have some small spats over little things here and there.