Is love infatuation, is it greed, is it possessiveness, is it satisfaction of ego is it a convenience of life, and a status quo is maintained, for want of better alternative? A boy falls in love, with her smile, or her dimples, her eyes, her gait, or her curves.
She is more than all that.
Life too, is something more, a complex compound of: cold realities of finances, rituals and social interaction, her approach to life, her ability to anchor the family, with selflessness, tolerance, balanced view of life.
The infatuation is short lived, it evaporates, as the novelty of physical parameters fades.
Is love a new experience, with hither to forbidden/restricted physical relations? May be, but novelty fades with time, with familiarity, love may fade too.
Is love possessiveness? If the girl rejects boy's proposal, why should the boy harm her, physically or emotionally; to whom he proclaimed to love? Does love imply, forcing our will, upon those, whom we love.
? Accept me, or I harm you! A rape, may be followed by murder; if proposal is not accepted.
A one way traffic! This is uncivilised behaviour at its worst.
Even when the relationship is accepted, possessiveness still plays its role.
The spouses demand, priority over all earlier relations, which can be painful at times.
Is love greed? Not always, but there is, a latent analysis in the mind, before falling in love, of the manage-able comforts in life, with the would be spouse under consideration.
Parental love too, may have similar connotations.
We will love our parents, if we get our dues, in property; sometimes on demand, whenever we want.
If we are denied, the parents are no longer worthy of our respect; there is no love lost with siblings.
Any means are valid to get our dues.
Inorganic property is coveted, organic parents, siblings are not, they are dispensable, their utility may be over.
Is love conformity? Relationship between spouses is a tradition, a conformist view of life, and a single parent or a divorcee, has tougher time in life.
We compromise, and carry on, with minor irritations, with imperfections in present spouse.
Uncertainty in new incumbent, is a deterrent to divorce.
We prolong our agony, with known devil.
There may be no love lost, with present spouse, no enmity too, a cold, colourless, bland life.
We cry in our heart, we feel,we deserved better in life, keep trying to change, the spouse to our specifications, refusing to accept the spouse, as spouse is.
This is not true love.
Love is selflessness, love is tolerance, love is to let the spouse be happy as spouse desires, love is - no strings attached; it may not be so, when imperfect individuals interact.
Love is not comparing, love is not based on assets of the spouse, love is not lasting if based on physical beauty alone, and love does not go stale with age, physical appearance, Love invents newness in the spouse, on a continual basis.
Love adds synergy in the family, without diluting the individual identities, and both enjoy the bliss of love, till eternity.
She is more than all that.
Life too, is something more, a complex compound of: cold realities of finances, rituals and social interaction, her approach to life, her ability to anchor the family, with selflessness, tolerance, balanced view of life.
The infatuation is short lived, it evaporates, as the novelty of physical parameters fades.
Is love a new experience, with hither to forbidden/restricted physical relations? May be, but novelty fades with time, with familiarity, love may fade too.
Is love possessiveness? If the girl rejects boy's proposal, why should the boy harm her, physically or emotionally; to whom he proclaimed to love? Does love imply, forcing our will, upon those, whom we love.
? Accept me, or I harm you! A rape, may be followed by murder; if proposal is not accepted.
A one way traffic! This is uncivilised behaviour at its worst.
Even when the relationship is accepted, possessiveness still plays its role.
The spouses demand, priority over all earlier relations, which can be painful at times.
Is love greed? Not always, but there is, a latent analysis in the mind, before falling in love, of the manage-able comforts in life, with the would be spouse under consideration.
Parental love too, may have similar connotations.
We will love our parents, if we get our dues, in property; sometimes on demand, whenever we want.
If we are denied, the parents are no longer worthy of our respect; there is no love lost with siblings.
Any means are valid to get our dues.
Inorganic property is coveted, organic parents, siblings are not, they are dispensable, their utility may be over.
Is love conformity? Relationship between spouses is a tradition, a conformist view of life, and a single parent or a divorcee, has tougher time in life.
We compromise, and carry on, with minor irritations, with imperfections in present spouse.
Uncertainty in new incumbent, is a deterrent to divorce.
We prolong our agony, with known devil.
There may be no love lost, with present spouse, no enmity too, a cold, colourless, bland life.
We cry in our heart, we feel,we deserved better in life, keep trying to change, the spouse to our specifications, refusing to accept the spouse, as spouse is.
This is not true love.
Love is selflessness, love is tolerance, love is to let the spouse be happy as spouse desires, love is - no strings attached; it may not be so, when imperfect individuals interact.
Love is not comparing, love is not based on assets of the spouse, love is not lasting if based on physical beauty alone, and love does not go stale with age, physical appearance, Love invents newness in the spouse, on a continual basis.
Love adds synergy in the family, without diluting the individual identities, and both enjoy the bliss of love, till eternity.