Tips For Getting Your Ex Girlfriend or Ex Boyfriend To Want You Back As discussed in a previous article of mine what people usually do when they are first dumped is they behave instinctively.
In other words when somebody is first dumped usually they go into a state of panic and severe loneliness and feelings of rejection.
This is pain and you want to get rid of the pain so you see the solution is getting back with your ex.
It is almost as if you are a heroin addict and your ex girlfriend of ex boyfriend is the drug and you are going through withdrawals.
This leads you to saying or doing just about anything to get your ex to take you back.
The problem however is this sort of behavior, even though it feels like the appropriate thing to do at the time especially if you're feeling desperate, it is the exact opposite of how you need to behave to increase feelings of attraction your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend has for you.
Do you know one of the reasons why diamonds are or gold is so valuable? Because it is so rare and so hard to get.
The second thing you must do to get your ex back (the first thing you must do is get a grip on yourself stop crying and put yourself in a more positive and strong emotional state) is not be there anymore.
In other words one of the things that reduces the likelihood your ex would take you back is because all the crying and pleading you are doing they know they can have you back at any moment they want.
That completely takes away from any sense of loss or desperation for them because you are constantly there in their face.
What would happen however if all of a sudden you stop calling.
What if you stopped sending them letter's.
You stopped begging.
It's sort of like if you're a room that has all sorts of noise, maybe a big huge fan going, and then the power goes out you instantly hear the overwhelming quietness.
Well right now with you doing all the pleading, begging, and calling, you are like that room full of noise.
Disappear, stop calling, stop texting, stop all contact.
To your ex it would be like the power went out and she will notice the quiet.
Do you see where I am getting at? It is in this quiet that you give her the opportunity to miss you.
However there is a right way and a wrong way to do this.
It is a delicate balancing act.
If you disappear too much and in the wrong way they will get the message you've totally moved on and you are not interested anymore.
If you don't disappear enough you won't produce the desired 'quiet room' effect.
In other words when somebody is first dumped usually they go into a state of panic and severe loneliness and feelings of rejection.
This is pain and you want to get rid of the pain so you see the solution is getting back with your ex.
It is almost as if you are a heroin addict and your ex girlfriend of ex boyfriend is the drug and you are going through withdrawals.
This leads you to saying or doing just about anything to get your ex to take you back.
The problem however is this sort of behavior, even though it feels like the appropriate thing to do at the time especially if you're feeling desperate, it is the exact opposite of how you need to behave to increase feelings of attraction your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend has for you.
Do you know one of the reasons why diamonds are or gold is so valuable? Because it is so rare and so hard to get.
The second thing you must do to get your ex back (the first thing you must do is get a grip on yourself stop crying and put yourself in a more positive and strong emotional state) is not be there anymore.
In other words one of the things that reduces the likelihood your ex would take you back is because all the crying and pleading you are doing they know they can have you back at any moment they want.
That completely takes away from any sense of loss or desperation for them because you are constantly there in their face.
What would happen however if all of a sudden you stop calling.
What if you stopped sending them letter's.
You stopped begging.
It's sort of like if you're a room that has all sorts of noise, maybe a big huge fan going, and then the power goes out you instantly hear the overwhelming quietness.
Well right now with you doing all the pleading, begging, and calling, you are like that room full of noise.
Disappear, stop calling, stop texting, stop all contact.
To your ex it would be like the power went out and she will notice the quiet.
Do you see where I am getting at? It is in this quiet that you give her the opportunity to miss you.
However there is a right way and a wrong way to do this.
It is a delicate balancing act.
If you disappear too much and in the wrong way they will get the message you've totally moved on and you are not interested anymore.
If you don't disappear enough you won't produce the desired 'quiet room' effect.