Sometimes you are talking but it doesn't seem that anything you are saying is getting through. Have you ever had that experience? Have you ever been trying so hard to make a point and you realized that the other person wasn't really focusing as much as you were. This is very common in long-term relationships because we tend to think that we know everything that other person is thinking. We "tune them out" as it is said, but by doing this we can miss very important things that they are trying to say to us. If you think your partner isn't listening here are some things you can do to communicate with them.

If you have discovered that your husband isn't listening when you are asking him things or just expressing your opinions you might want to look at when you are doing this. Are you trying to express things to him while he is otherwise focused on his favorite TV show or the football game. Maybe he has a lot on his mind from work? Choose the times you reveal important information wisely so that your partner can be all ears and listen to you.

When certain things are brought up you may notice yourself being tuned out? Possibly it is when you mention to him that you want to spend the holidays with his in-laws, or when you tell him that the grass still needs mowing. It is human nature for people to ignore things that are unpleasant for them. If you want them to listen when you are bringing potential bad news then add an element of positive to it. "I can't wait for you to finish cutting the grass today so I can cook you your favorite meal tonight". When a person doesn't want to do something you can use a positive anchor to help him see it as a goal and overlook the negatives.

Maybe you just feel that your significant other just doesn't respond to you in most all of the situations I have listed above. Well there is a solution, maybe you are using the wrong form of communication. There are many ways to pass information speaking is just one of those ways. Maybe your partner prefers a note, an email or a text when it comes to things he needs to take care of. Possibly you are speaking to him and it goes in one ear and out the other because he prefers to prioritize his day around his email or texting account. If you mold to his preferred way of communicating you will find that he listens so much better.

You might be saying, these ideas are great, but why should I do all the work? After all it is my partner who isn't listening to me. They should change, you are 100% right. In the meantime, though if you want to be able to communicate you had better get used to the fact that this is a weakness for them. You cannot change them, but you can learn to make things easier on yourself. That is why I have given you these ideas. Put them to use now!