Because one of my major passions in life is human relationships, a lot of my friends come to me to seek out my opinion or get some advice on situations that are going on in their life. It's kind of like I get to live a lot of lives through these interactions. Anyways, one of my friends, I'll call her Lisa, because I don't want to embarrass her, was having quite the time when it came to meeting guys. And I do not mean that in a good way at all.

Seems like every guy she met for a while had a lot of "skeletons" in their closet. One guy was 31 and still lived at home because he could not hold down a job for more than a few months at a time. Another guy turned out to have a long term girlfriend that he was trying to hide. And then there was this one guy who absolutely bored her to tears, yet she went out with him for a few months just because he did not have any major drama going on.

Well, she came to get some advice, as she was tired of getting into all of these chaotic or just unsatisfying situations. One of the first questions that I asked her was... what do you REALLY want out of a relationship.

She sat, quiet for a few moments, then blurted out... "I don't really know, I guess."

When she said that, what she was doing was revealing a major faux pas that a lot of women suffer from. Men, too, really. She knew she wanted something different, but she did not know what it was that she wanted. My advice was simple. Get in tune with what you really want from a relationship, even if a part of you does not think that it is realistic or possible.

Why?

Because when you don't know what you want in a relationship or in someone you are dating, you will pretty much take anything that comes your way. Seriously. Making that one little change can totally rock your world. It can shed new light and change the entire way you go about meeting men, and which ones you focus on and which ones you don't.

When it came right down to it, Lisa wanted a man she could count on to be there for her, but also a guy who was spontaneous. A part of her did not believe that it was possible to meet a guy who had both qualities. Yet, just a couple of months later, she had a new boyfriend in her life, a guy she is very happy with.

If you are getting stuck with a lot of losers, not finding the man of your dreams, or just unsatisfied with your love life, ask yourself what do you REALLY want. And take the time to really think about it. It might just be the one change that rocks your world and puts you on the right track to meet the right guy.