How often have you thought about telling an important person in your life, just how important they are and then didn't? How many times have you thought about how much you love or appreciate someone and then didn't share it? If this happens to you, know that you are not alone! However, know that you can do something about it.
Most people find it hard to express themselves, especially when it comes to sharing love and affection.
It is okay if this has happened to you, as you can't change that! However, you can change how you handle these moments in the future.
"The ancestor of every action is a thought!"- Ralph Waldo Emerson Well, if this has happened to you then you obviously have thought about how much the person means to you, now you just need to learn how to say it.
Their are actually several ways to say it, because verbal communication is only part of the process! You can tell someone simply by speaking what is on your mind, "Kaitlyn, I want you to know that I love you and I am very proud of you!" You can tell someone by demonstrating through action how you feel about them; giving them a hug, buying them a card or combining the act of touch and/or visual demonstration and/or verbal expression (a combination of 2 of the 3 or even all 3 will work).
"We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love.
"- Mother Theresa The 3 simple step process of telling others how you feel about them (drum roll, please!), is to remain in the present moment, then when you think about how you are feeling about this person in the moment formulate your plan to express this and finally follow through.
Just the other night, I was having a wonderful series of moments with my oldest daughter and I thought to myself, "I need to share with her that I love her!" Now, I do very much! However, I like most of you don't share this nearly enough and therefore needed to walk myself through the process.
Since I was present and realized how much I was enjoying this moment, I then begin to formulate my plan to express my feelings to her.
I thought of a few different options and decided on my plan, as well as a few ways to implement it.
Then, I forced myself to follow through! Yes, I mean forced myself, because I wasn't sure how this would work out.
Although, I decided that it didn't matter how it turned out, what mattered is that I told her how I was feeling.
It turned out great and it felt even better! Express yourself: - Be present - Formulate plan - Follow through Let me explain the steps further.
When you are present, then you are focused on the moment you are having, as well as your thoughts about the moment.
So, by being present you are aware of your thoughts and this is a very important aspect of the process.
Once you realize you have the thought, "Man, I love this person!" or "I am so proud of her!", you can formulate a plan for expressing it.
Sometimes the plan is simply saying how you feel, "I am so proud of you!" or sometimes the plan requires more thought.
You may decide you want to surprise this person with a card and wonderful candle light dinner.
So, you figure out how to make that happen.
Once you have decided on your course of action or actions, you need to follow through.
It means nothing to merely think it, people need to see it, hear it and feel it! "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than the ones you did do! Sail away from the safe harbour.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore.
Dream.
Discover.
"- Mark Twain In the beginning you may need to consciously force yourself to follow through and this is okay, because it is new to you.
By allowing yourself to express your feelings to others, you will get better at it and most importantly they will appreciate it.
Appropriate expression of love and affection is very healthy for the other person, but it is also very healthy for you too.
Expressing how you feel about others will most likely lead to better relationships and in turn lead to them expressing there feelings for you! It's a win-win.
Most people find it hard to express themselves, especially when it comes to sharing love and affection.
It is okay if this has happened to you, as you can't change that! However, you can change how you handle these moments in the future.
"The ancestor of every action is a thought!"- Ralph Waldo Emerson Well, if this has happened to you then you obviously have thought about how much the person means to you, now you just need to learn how to say it.
Their are actually several ways to say it, because verbal communication is only part of the process! You can tell someone simply by speaking what is on your mind, "Kaitlyn, I want you to know that I love you and I am very proud of you!" You can tell someone by demonstrating through action how you feel about them; giving them a hug, buying them a card or combining the act of touch and/or visual demonstration and/or verbal expression (a combination of 2 of the 3 or even all 3 will work).
"We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love.
"- Mother Theresa The 3 simple step process of telling others how you feel about them (drum roll, please!), is to remain in the present moment, then when you think about how you are feeling about this person in the moment formulate your plan to express this and finally follow through.
Just the other night, I was having a wonderful series of moments with my oldest daughter and I thought to myself, "I need to share with her that I love her!" Now, I do very much! However, I like most of you don't share this nearly enough and therefore needed to walk myself through the process.
Since I was present and realized how much I was enjoying this moment, I then begin to formulate my plan to express my feelings to her.
I thought of a few different options and decided on my plan, as well as a few ways to implement it.
Then, I forced myself to follow through! Yes, I mean forced myself, because I wasn't sure how this would work out.
Although, I decided that it didn't matter how it turned out, what mattered is that I told her how I was feeling.
It turned out great and it felt even better! Express yourself: - Be present - Formulate plan - Follow through Let me explain the steps further.
When you are present, then you are focused on the moment you are having, as well as your thoughts about the moment.
So, by being present you are aware of your thoughts and this is a very important aspect of the process.
Once you realize you have the thought, "Man, I love this person!" or "I am so proud of her!", you can formulate a plan for expressing it.
Sometimes the plan is simply saying how you feel, "I am so proud of you!" or sometimes the plan requires more thought.
You may decide you want to surprise this person with a card and wonderful candle light dinner.
So, you figure out how to make that happen.
Once you have decided on your course of action or actions, you need to follow through.
It means nothing to merely think it, people need to see it, hear it and feel it! "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than the ones you did do! Sail away from the safe harbour.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore.
Dream.
Discover.
"- Mark Twain In the beginning you may need to consciously force yourself to follow through and this is okay, because it is new to you.
By allowing yourself to express your feelings to others, you will get better at it and most importantly they will appreciate it.
Appropriate expression of love and affection is very healthy for the other person, but it is also very healthy for you too.
Expressing how you feel about others will most likely lead to better relationships and in turn lead to them expressing there feelings for you! It's a win-win.