Dinner is a pretty definite period of time. Of course, when we ask a woman out for dinner we are not exactly specifically just asking her out for a meal. There is the implied standing invitation for drinks, dessert, lingering over coffee, or of course a romantic walk through the neighborhood and who knows what else? So when dinner ends and it is time to start making decisions, where do you go from here?
Fortunately it really isn't up to you. All you have to offer is an opinion or a suggestion and then she has the ultimate call. You can ask her if she would like to come back to your place, but that is likely to be turned down because that puts you in a situation of being horny, comfortable, and somewhat in control. Most women aren't into that for their first date so you should be prepared to give up the notion. She might in turn invite you back with her.
If the conversation is lagging and she seems to be ready to go, take the hint. There is nothing more frustrating for the date's end than to watch it be dragged out mercilessly because you can't figure out whether she had a good time or not. Make the date as awesome as possible and then leave the situation in her control. Allowing her the control for the rest of the evening actually opens up the possibilities of getting what you really want.
Over all, guys tend to anticipate that they will really enjoy themselves and that they are usually ready for a little hot and heavy interactions when the dinner plates have cleared and there is not much that is obviously left undone. Well, except sec of course.
But what if you didn't like your evening? What if all she did was drone on and on about how terrible her job is and how she just couldn't stand her last boyfriend and how totally unsure of where her next career move should take her. You smiled, you frowned when appropriate, and then smiled again. You interjected where you could and you even tried to change the subject many times to one that just might not be as negative.
When you are no longer interested in a woman after your first date, it is acceptable to make up a convenient excuse about having to get up at the crack of dawn in the morning or how it is your standard practice to leave a night like this as a gentleman. Unless she becomes pushy about seeing you again or about spending the night together, then there really isn't much need to let her know that you are not interested in seeing her again. Hurting her feelings isn't going help her and sparing them might be the better scenario.
What is really important is that you watch that you aren't encouraging her in some way and allowing her to believe that her perception that she now has a new boyfriend is accurate. She doesn't have a new boyfriend, and some women need to know that. If you find that you need to be honest in order to prevent any further hurt feelings later on, then be as tactful as possible. You don't need to blurt out that you think she is a terrible date or that she is suffocating you with only three hours of companionship and you really don't see how any more wouldn't be completely intolerable. But you can let a woman know that you really enjoyed getting to know her but you just don't think there is a good match.
Fortunately it really isn't up to you. All you have to offer is an opinion or a suggestion and then she has the ultimate call. You can ask her if she would like to come back to your place, but that is likely to be turned down because that puts you in a situation of being horny, comfortable, and somewhat in control. Most women aren't into that for their first date so you should be prepared to give up the notion. She might in turn invite you back with her.
If the conversation is lagging and she seems to be ready to go, take the hint. There is nothing more frustrating for the date's end than to watch it be dragged out mercilessly because you can't figure out whether she had a good time or not. Make the date as awesome as possible and then leave the situation in her control. Allowing her the control for the rest of the evening actually opens up the possibilities of getting what you really want.
Over all, guys tend to anticipate that they will really enjoy themselves and that they are usually ready for a little hot and heavy interactions when the dinner plates have cleared and there is not much that is obviously left undone. Well, except sec of course.
But what if you didn't like your evening? What if all she did was drone on and on about how terrible her job is and how she just couldn't stand her last boyfriend and how totally unsure of where her next career move should take her. You smiled, you frowned when appropriate, and then smiled again. You interjected where you could and you even tried to change the subject many times to one that just might not be as negative.
When you are no longer interested in a woman after your first date, it is acceptable to make up a convenient excuse about having to get up at the crack of dawn in the morning or how it is your standard practice to leave a night like this as a gentleman. Unless she becomes pushy about seeing you again or about spending the night together, then there really isn't much need to let her know that you are not interested in seeing her again. Hurting her feelings isn't going help her and sparing them might be the better scenario.
What is really important is that you watch that you aren't encouraging her in some way and allowing her to believe that her perception that she now has a new boyfriend is accurate. She doesn't have a new boyfriend, and some women need to know that. If you find that you need to be honest in order to prevent any further hurt feelings later on, then be as tactful as possible. You don't need to blurt out that you think she is a terrible date or that she is suffocating you with only three hours of companionship and you really don't see how any more wouldn't be completely intolerable. But you can let a woman know that you really enjoyed getting to know her but you just don't think there is a good match.