Take Back Control of Your Relationship - Regaining the Upper Hand
Are you tired of not having any control in your relationship? Are you frustrated by an inability to steer your relationship in the direction you desire? Would you like to know how to take back control of your relationship and get it out of the rut it's been stuck in for so long? Consider these tips on taking back control of your relationship and get going on moving your relationship along to the next level.
The unfortunate truth about relationships is that they often amount to isolated struggles for control.
When two people get involved in each other's lives, they never stop being individuals.
Each has individual needs and desires.
When you end up doing everything as a couple instead of as individuals, however, those needs and desires may conflict or overlap.
Consequentially, struggles ensue over who's needs and desire are more important.
Believe it or not, but under ideal circumstances, these struggles actually strengthen relationships.
When two people in a relationship stand on equal footing, conflict forces each to consider the needs and desires of the other.
Conflict keeps the balance of power stable so that a couple has to make decisions that are in the best interest of the couple, not simply in the best interest of one half of the couple.
The problem in many relationships is that one person becomes more dominant and the needs of the other are ignored.
When this happens, it ultimately makes both people in that relationship unhappy.
One person doesn't have any of their needs met, and so they grow dejected.
The other person gets their way too easily and so begins to take their situation for granted.
If you're involved in one of these unbalanced situations, chances are your relationship is headed for disaster - if it isn't already one.
In that case, it's time to take back control of your relationship and keep it from falling apart completely.
And it all starts with learning how to say "no.
" In order to get what you want in a relationship, and in order to get your man to recognize your needs, you need to make yourself heard.
You have to learn to insist on fulfilling your own needs.
When it comes down to pursuing interests, you have to learn to take time to do things on your own.
When it comes to doing things together, you have to learn to insist on doing things you want to do.
When it comes to making decisions, you have to stand up for your own thoughts and feelings and learn to tell your man when his thoughts aren't logically sound.
Remember though, the past can't be held in account when realigning the balance of power in your relationship.
If he's had complete control for years, balance isn't achieved by taking complete control yourself for an equal amount of time.
Regardless of how he's treated you, he hasn't accrued a debt that now needs to pay off.
You have to reestablish the balance of power from scratch.
Regaining control over your relationship amounts to starting over again, this time with the goal of learning from the mistakes of your past.
The unfortunate truth about relationships is that they often amount to isolated struggles for control.
When two people get involved in each other's lives, they never stop being individuals.
Each has individual needs and desires.
When you end up doing everything as a couple instead of as individuals, however, those needs and desires may conflict or overlap.
Consequentially, struggles ensue over who's needs and desire are more important.
Believe it or not, but under ideal circumstances, these struggles actually strengthen relationships.
When two people in a relationship stand on equal footing, conflict forces each to consider the needs and desires of the other.
Conflict keeps the balance of power stable so that a couple has to make decisions that are in the best interest of the couple, not simply in the best interest of one half of the couple.
The problem in many relationships is that one person becomes more dominant and the needs of the other are ignored.
When this happens, it ultimately makes both people in that relationship unhappy.
One person doesn't have any of their needs met, and so they grow dejected.
The other person gets their way too easily and so begins to take their situation for granted.
If you're involved in one of these unbalanced situations, chances are your relationship is headed for disaster - if it isn't already one.
In that case, it's time to take back control of your relationship and keep it from falling apart completely.
And it all starts with learning how to say "no.
" In order to get what you want in a relationship, and in order to get your man to recognize your needs, you need to make yourself heard.
You have to learn to insist on fulfilling your own needs.
When it comes down to pursuing interests, you have to learn to take time to do things on your own.
When it comes to doing things together, you have to learn to insist on doing things you want to do.
When it comes to making decisions, you have to stand up for your own thoughts and feelings and learn to tell your man when his thoughts aren't logically sound.
Remember though, the past can't be held in account when realigning the balance of power in your relationship.
If he's had complete control for years, balance isn't achieved by taking complete control yourself for an equal amount of time.
Regardless of how he's treated you, he hasn't accrued a debt that now needs to pay off.
You have to reestablish the balance of power from scratch.
Regaining control over your relationship amounts to starting over again, this time with the goal of learning from the mistakes of your past.