Guys are constantly told that pickup lines are the way to break the ice with women.
Guys trade pickup lines with their friends, see them on TV and movies, and soon or later every guy tries one or two.
Sometimes they work, but often they do not.
Instead of using a pickup line, try this method for talking to women.
1) Confidence.
You need to be confident when approaching someone.
Confidence is very important.
It does not mean you should be egotistical.
It means that you are sure of yourself, even if you are not the most attractive man in the room.
It shows that you have strength, character and a can do attitude which are qualities she is like to find appealing.
Remember that the worst possible outcome is that she won't talk to you.
While rejection is unpleasant, it is not the end of the world.
You should be looking her in the eyes.
The easiest way to reveal that you are not confident is to advert your eyes.
Your stance and body language should be open.
Don't cross your arms, which in body language is a defensive stance.
Keep your hands out of your pockets.
You should be smiling, since everyone tends to react the same way they are approached.
If you approach a woman with a smile, she is likely smile back.
Don't stammer and stutter when you speak.
Alcohol is depressant and muscle relaxant.
If you find you are too tense to be confident, a drink may help.
Just don't over do it.
2) Breaking the ice.
Guys, the best way to break the ice to walk up, say hello and introduce yourself.
It is simple, straightforward and easy to remember.
Plus it is going to work more often than any pickup line.
Combined with a confident approach and delivery, this icebreaker is a winner.
Every guy will have doubts about just saying hello from time to time.
You are going to fall back on a pickup line once in a while.
When you do, don't make it a sleazy line.
Instead, say something funny.
Everyone loves to laugh.
Again, just do this with confidence.
3) Getting the conversation going.
People love to talk about themselves.
One way to get the conversation rolling after the icebreaker is ask some questions of her, and try to get her to talk about herself.
Even in a brief conversation it is possible to identify an interest.
When you discover an interest of hers, allow her to talk about it.
You'll accomplish three things by doing this.
One, you'll be getting to know a little bit about her.
Two, you are demonstrating an interest in her.
Women appreciate a man who is taking an interest in them.
Three, you will be letting her know you have a common interest.
Perhaps you are not really interested in the same thing she is, but it's OK to talk about it as if you are when you are getting to know someone.
On the flip side of this, don't talk about yourself too much.
You do want to share part of yourself with her, but don't make the entire conversation about you.
Just like people like to talk about themselves, they can tune out someone who is self absorbed.
4) Make her laugh I personally think it's always a good thing to make her laugh.
You should not stand there and recite jokes all night, but if the opportunity to say something funny occurs naturally take advantage of it.
One way to demonstrate that you are down to earth and you don't have an inflated ego is to make jokes at your own expense.
First, it is a safe way to get laugh, since you are not likely to offend her by making fun of yourself.
Second, it shows that you a self aware and grounded.
Be careful not to undermine the confidence you are projecting.
You can easily go too far.
But, it's also a way to return to normal if you've oversold your own confidence.
From this point you can take the conversation anywhere you want.
Guys trade pickup lines with their friends, see them on TV and movies, and soon or later every guy tries one or two.
Sometimes they work, but often they do not.
Instead of using a pickup line, try this method for talking to women.
1) Confidence.
You need to be confident when approaching someone.
Confidence is very important.
It does not mean you should be egotistical.
It means that you are sure of yourself, even if you are not the most attractive man in the room.
It shows that you have strength, character and a can do attitude which are qualities she is like to find appealing.
Remember that the worst possible outcome is that she won't talk to you.
While rejection is unpleasant, it is not the end of the world.
You should be looking her in the eyes.
The easiest way to reveal that you are not confident is to advert your eyes.
Your stance and body language should be open.
Don't cross your arms, which in body language is a defensive stance.
Keep your hands out of your pockets.
You should be smiling, since everyone tends to react the same way they are approached.
If you approach a woman with a smile, she is likely smile back.
Don't stammer and stutter when you speak.
Alcohol is depressant and muscle relaxant.
If you find you are too tense to be confident, a drink may help.
Just don't over do it.
2) Breaking the ice.
Guys, the best way to break the ice to walk up, say hello and introduce yourself.
It is simple, straightforward and easy to remember.
Plus it is going to work more often than any pickup line.
Combined with a confident approach and delivery, this icebreaker is a winner.
Every guy will have doubts about just saying hello from time to time.
You are going to fall back on a pickup line once in a while.
When you do, don't make it a sleazy line.
Instead, say something funny.
Everyone loves to laugh.
Again, just do this with confidence.
3) Getting the conversation going.
People love to talk about themselves.
One way to get the conversation rolling after the icebreaker is ask some questions of her, and try to get her to talk about herself.
Even in a brief conversation it is possible to identify an interest.
When you discover an interest of hers, allow her to talk about it.
You'll accomplish three things by doing this.
One, you'll be getting to know a little bit about her.
Two, you are demonstrating an interest in her.
Women appreciate a man who is taking an interest in them.
Three, you will be letting her know you have a common interest.
Perhaps you are not really interested in the same thing she is, but it's OK to talk about it as if you are when you are getting to know someone.
On the flip side of this, don't talk about yourself too much.
You do want to share part of yourself with her, but don't make the entire conversation about you.
Just like people like to talk about themselves, they can tune out someone who is self absorbed.
4) Make her laugh I personally think it's always a good thing to make her laugh.
You should not stand there and recite jokes all night, but if the opportunity to say something funny occurs naturally take advantage of it.
One way to demonstrate that you are down to earth and you don't have an inflated ego is to make jokes at your own expense.
First, it is a safe way to get laugh, since you are not likely to offend her by making fun of yourself.
Second, it shows that you a self aware and grounded.
Be careful not to undermine the confidence you are projecting.
You can easily go too far.
But, it's also a way to return to normal if you've oversold your own confidence.
From this point you can take the conversation anywhere you want.