Over 40 Relationship Tips - Your Internal Voice Can Be Holding You Back
That inner voice you have can be the biggest reason that most women don't have the success in finding a relationship that they want.
It is that voice that says: your not pretty enough, you will always be single, wondering what he is really thinking, etc.
If you think negatively about yourself, others will pick up on your negativity and respond by mirroring your negative self-perception.
In other words, people will think about you in the same way that you think about yourself.
Words can be poison, so watch them.
If you can't say something nice about yourself, don't say anything at all.
The more you talk about how you haven't been able to find a man, people around you will start seeing you as someone who can't get a man.
You will have earned an identity as that person who never gets a date, and the only person to blame is yourself.
Give yourself a break.
Even if you are having a bad hair day, or a fat day, don't say anything about it-either to others or yourself.
If you have to avoid looking in mirrors, do so.
Forgive yourself for not being in the best shape.
Do whatever it takes to feel okay with how you are feeling and looking right now.
Forgive yourself for not being perfect, women put higher expectations on themselves than anyone else.
You can change by changing your thoughts.
Start by allowing others to compliment you.
It is amazing how our ability to accept the positive opinion others have of us actually reinforces that positive opinion.
Our thoughts affect the tone of our voice and our body language.
Men can pick up on these subliminal signals.
We are used to allowing ourselves to think whatever crosses through our mind.
Yet unless you stop thinking in negative ways about yourself, or worrying so much, or doubting your future, you will keep finding that bad patterns keep getting repeated.
Even if you don't feel good about yourself, you can at least stop bringing yourself down with critical thoughts.
Self love is a prerequisite for getting the love you deserve.
As you develop a deeper sense of love in yourself for all your wonderful, quirky flaws you will be amazed to see that the love in your heart is reflected in others.
A woman who loves herself doesn't have to hurt, hate or put down others to make herself feel good.
A woman who accepts herself for who she is also accepts others for who they are.
Loving thoughts are like perfume that draws others to you.
It is that voice that says: your not pretty enough, you will always be single, wondering what he is really thinking, etc.
If you think negatively about yourself, others will pick up on your negativity and respond by mirroring your negative self-perception.
In other words, people will think about you in the same way that you think about yourself.
Words can be poison, so watch them.
If you can't say something nice about yourself, don't say anything at all.
The more you talk about how you haven't been able to find a man, people around you will start seeing you as someone who can't get a man.
You will have earned an identity as that person who never gets a date, and the only person to blame is yourself.
Give yourself a break.
Even if you are having a bad hair day, or a fat day, don't say anything about it-either to others or yourself.
If you have to avoid looking in mirrors, do so.
Forgive yourself for not being in the best shape.
Do whatever it takes to feel okay with how you are feeling and looking right now.
Forgive yourself for not being perfect, women put higher expectations on themselves than anyone else.
You can change by changing your thoughts.
Start by allowing others to compliment you.
It is amazing how our ability to accept the positive opinion others have of us actually reinforces that positive opinion.
Our thoughts affect the tone of our voice and our body language.
Men can pick up on these subliminal signals.
We are used to allowing ourselves to think whatever crosses through our mind.
Yet unless you stop thinking in negative ways about yourself, or worrying so much, or doubting your future, you will keep finding that bad patterns keep getting repeated.
Even if you don't feel good about yourself, you can at least stop bringing yourself down with critical thoughts.
Self love is a prerequisite for getting the love you deserve.
As you develop a deeper sense of love in yourself for all your wonderful, quirky flaws you will be amazed to see that the love in your heart is reflected in others.
A woman who loves herself doesn't have to hurt, hate or put down others to make herself feel good.
A woman who accepts herself for who she is also accepts others for who they are.
Loving thoughts are like perfume that draws others to you.