Everyone knows brides tend to get anxious when the big day approaches.
You are about to make a big commitment, one that will alter your life.
Additionally, as the bride you are likely to be heavily involved in the arrangements for your wedding.
This is time-consuming and there are those last minute details to take care of.
There are always things that could go wrong and you want your wedding to be perfect.
All this is natural.
There's nothing wrong with being a bit nervous when your wedding day approaches.
Remember that there's nothing that should stand in the way of you having the time of your life.
Even if it turns out the napkins don't go perfectly with the flowers, this is not what will be remembered afterwards.
What will be remembered is the joining of two people who have chosen to spend the rest of their days together.
That's a beautiful memory indeed.
Though there are some grooms who are as heavily involved in the wedding arrangements as their brides, a lot of grooms pretty much leave those details to others.
They've done their bit - they've expressed their feelings, they've shared that they want to get married and the next step is the wedding itself.
This doesn't mean your partner doesn't truly want to get married.
He does.
It's just that some men can be pretty traditional about it all and what matters, to them, about the wedding is that you will be there and that you want to be with him.
He doesn't care much about flower arrangements and cakes.
What do you do, though, when the day approaches and your partner seems more nervous than you are? First of all, don't panic.
Just because he is nervous doesn't mean that he wants to back out.
A wedding is a big step for both, and just as you might be experiencing a bit of anxiety, so might he.
Think about his family and friends.
Is there anyone amongst them who might be teasing him about the "ball and chain" and that these are the last days (or weeks) in which he can enjoy himself? A lot of friends and family members enjoy a bit of light-hearted teasing.
Most grooms take this in their stride, but, depending on your partner's past, it may have him slightly worried.
You know him best.
Another common concern amongst grooms is if he will be able to be a good husband or, perhaps in the future, a good father.
We all have our insecurities, and your partner might worry if he can truly make you happy.
As nobody knows what the future will hold, there is no way for him to be 100 percent certain that he will be able to do so.
Don't worry.
If those possibilities might apply to your partner, they are easily solved.
My suggestion is to choose a night, possibly at the weekend, and spend a relaxed time together.
Perhaps you could cook a nice meal and settle on the sofa.
If the mood is pleasant, you could gently ask him about why he seems to be a bit nervous.
Have a good chat about it all.
Reassure him that, though indeed you can never know what the future might hold, you want to spend it with him and you can work things out together.
Have a think beforehand on everything you want to address, and touch on these points when the conversation moves in that direction.
Many men enjoy spending time with their friends.
Most commonly, there shouldn't be a reason for him not to have his nights "with the boys", just like you will still need your time with your friends.
Concerns like this are easily overcome.
They just need to be addressed.
Deep in his heart, he will likely know that there was nothing to worry about, but we all need some reassurance every now and again.
A good talk can do wonders.
A good talk can chase away any concerns, which will help get you both ready and eager for your big day.
And if he was worrying about the napkins after all, get him to choose some!
You are about to make a big commitment, one that will alter your life.
Additionally, as the bride you are likely to be heavily involved in the arrangements for your wedding.
This is time-consuming and there are those last minute details to take care of.
There are always things that could go wrong and you want your wedding to be perfect.
All this is natural.
There's nothing wrong with being a bit nervous when your wedding day approaches.
Remember that there's nothing that should stand in the way of you having the time of your life.
Even if it turns out the napkins don't go perfectly with the flowers, this is not what will be remembered afterwards.
What will be remembered is the joining of two people who have chosen to spend the rest of their days together.
That's a beautiful memory indeed.
Though there are some grooms who are as heavily involved in the wedding arrangements as their brides, a lot of grooms pretty much leave those details to others.
They've done their bit - they've expressed their feelings, they've shared that they want to get married and the next step is the wedding itself.
This doesn't mean your partner doesn't truly want to get married.
He does.
It's just that some men can be pretty traditional about it all and what matters, to them, about the wedding is that you will be there and that you want to be with him.
He doesn't care much about flower arrangements and cakes.
What do you do, though, when the day approaches and your partner seems more nervous than you are? First of all, don't panic.
Just because he is nervous doesn't mean that he wants to back out.
A wedding is a big step for both, and just as you might be experiencing a bit of anxiety, so might he.
Think about his family and friends.
Is there anyone amongst them who might be teasing him about the "ball and chain" and that these are the last days (or weeks) in which he can enjoy himself? A lot of friends and family members enjoy a bit of light-hearted teasing.
Most grooms take this in their stride, but, depending on your partner's past, it may have him slightly worried.
You know him best.
Another common concern amongst grooms is if he will be able to be a good husband or, perhaps in the future, a good father.
We all have our insecurities, and your partner might worry if he can truly make you happy.
As nobody knows what the future will hold, there is no way for him to be 100 percent certain that he will be able to do so.
Don't worry.
If those possibilities might apply to your partner, they are easily solved.
My suggestion is to choose a night, possibly at the weekend, and spend a relaxed time together.
Perhaps you could cook a nice meal and settle on the sofa.
If the mood is pleasant, you could gently ask him about why he seems to be a bit nervous.
Have a good chat about it all.
Reassure him that, though indeed you can never know what the future might hold, you want to spend it with him and you can work things out together.
Have a think beforehand on everything you want to address, and touch on these points when the conversation moves in that direction.
Many men enjoy spending time with their friends.
Most commonly, there shouldn't be a reason for him not to have his nights "with the boys", just like you will still need your time with your friends.
Concerns like this are easily overcome.
They just need to be addressed.
Deep in his heart, he will likely know that there was nothing to worry about, but we all need some reassurance every now and again.
A good talk can do wonders.
A good talk can chase away any concerns, which will help get you both ready and eager for your big day.
And if he was worrying about the napkins after all, get him to choose some!