Are you looking for help with controlling anxiety attacks? I think it can be done, though not in the way that you've probably tried a hundred times and not in the way that most people would tell you.
"Calm down," they say.
"Relax", they say.
"Think happy thoughts and wait for it to pass," they say.
Yeah, that's easy for them to say and think - they've probably never felt hat a real anxiety attack feels like - how it can hijack your body and mind and totally take off on it's own, and the more you try to breathe and relax the more your body goes crazy.
However, there is something you can try that maybe you've never heard of before.
It's unfortunate that most people have never heard of it because it is so effective.
Dr.
Victor Frankl called it paradoxical intention.
The essence behind it is that if you resist something (by being scared of it and trying to keep it from happening) it is actually more likely to happen - so when you are scared of your anxiety attacks you make them more likely to happen.
But, when you look forward to something, and you try to make it happen, and ask for more of it, that actually gives you some measure of control over it, and can make it happen less and less, and with less severity, until finally it fades away all together.
Does it sound scary to you to look forward to having an anxiety attack?