Step one
As always, your first step should be separation. You will have no contact with him what so ever. No phone calls or texting and no stalking.
This step is not only for your sanity, it also lets him know that you are doing well without him It is meant to help you end any preoccupation with your ex boyfriend and let you focus on your own necessities for getting through this breakup.
Heal the emotional wounds
The second step is to reconnect with your family and friends. Getting some support from those who care about you will help the emotional wounds heal. It is never a good idea to be completely alone when you are trying to get over someone. And it is pretty hard to sit around crying over your ex boyfriend when you are surrounded by people who wish you well and want to cheer you up.
Get some input
Now that some time has passed and you have been hanging out with your family and friends, maybe you can get some input from them as to why they think you and your boyfriend broke up. You have your own ideas and your boyfriend undoubtedly gave you his opinions as the screen door hit him in the rear end. However, sometimes it is a good idea to get the point of view from bystanders. Someone who is not directly involved can see it from a different angle and give you a better perspective of why the two of you broke up. Seeing the whole picture and from every angle is a key step to help you get your ex boyfriend back.
Sort it all out
As time moves on and you have heard all of the opinions and advise given by your family and friends, it is what you think that matters most. You will obviously agree with some ideas and disagree with others. Take what ever time you need to sort it all out. You may have started out wanting your ex back but now, maybe you are not so sure. Maybe you heard some facts about your ex that you chose not to realize before. Maybe you are thinking that being "unattached" isn't so bad after all. Above all, be absolutely sure that you want to get your ex boyfriend back.
As always, your first step should be separation. You will have no contact with him what so ever. No phone calls or texting and no stalking.
This step is not only for your sanity, it also lets him know that you are doing well without him It is meant to help you end any preoccupation with your ex boyfriend and let you focus on your own necessities for getting through this breakup.
Heal the emotional wounds
The second step is to reconnect with your family and friends. Getting some support from those who care about you will help the emotional wounds heal. It is never a good idea to be completely alone when you are trying to get over someone. And it is pretty hard to sit around crying over your ex boyfriend when you are surrounded by people who wish you well and want to cheer you up.
Get some input
Now that some time has passed and you have been hanging out with your family and friends, maybe you can get some input from them as to why they think you and your boyfriend broke up. You have your own ideas and your boyfriend undoubtedly gave you his opinions as the screen door hit him in the rear end. However, sometimes it is a good idea to get the point of view from bystanders. Someone who is not directly involved can see it from a different angle and give you a better perspective of why the two of you broke up. Seeing the whole picture and from every angle is a key step to help you get your ex boyfriend back.
Sort it all out
As time moves on and you have heard all of the opinions and advise given by your family and friends, it is what you think that matters most. You will obviously agree with some ideas and disagree with others. Take what ever time you need to sort it all out. You may have started out wanting your ex back but now, maybe you are not so sure. Maybe you heard some facts about your ex that you chose not to realize before. Maybe you are thinking that being "unattached" isn't so bad after all. Above all, be absolutely sure that you want to get your ex boyfriend back.