I receive so many questions from women that want to know how to get a man they have their eyes on.
First a woman will outline what she has tried.
It usually involves numerous attempts at contact including phone calls, emails and/or text messages with little or no response.
This approach does not work.
Think of it in terms of animals, say birds.
Male birds are adorned with big plumes and colors.
They use their attributes to attract female birds by posturing and performing.
Other animals sing, dance and/or preen to get the attention of the female.
These displays are done to attract the female to choose one male above others.
The key point being that the female is doing the choosing, not the other way around.
Sounds a bit counter intuitive doesn't it, given that women and young girls are bombarded in the media by advertisements about how to improve our looks and presentation.
Magazines everywhere have bombshells on the covers, and magazines like Cosmopolitan, for one, almost always have an article about how to please your man.
The message is that we are the ones chosen and not the other way around.
When women prepare for a night out, it is usually with the intention of attracting the attention of men.
Women are so wrapped up in attracting Mr.
Right that they get into the mindset that they are the ones selected.
So, we do all we can to draw attention in order to be chosen.
The problem is that the mating rituals have not changed so much as we like to think.
Men still want to chase and be chosen.
Think about it.
Have you ever chased a man? I know a woman that once she sets her sites on a man, she basically throws herself at him.
She will wear the low cut shirts and flaunt her sex in order to turn his head.
She is a sure thing.
Of course, this works briefly and on an animalistic scale, but it rarely keeps a guy around for more than a wham, bam, and thank you maam.
The reason why is that men like the chase and they want to feel special.
Think if you were on a job interview.
You were selected for the position out of one hundred applicants.
You'd feel pretty good about yourself.
However, if you are the only applicant, you might feel like the company would take anyone that walked through the door.
Seems like to company is desperate.
If this company is not selective about hiring, there may be something wrong internally that you cannot see initially.
You are automatically suspicious and feel that you should look for other opportunities.
Makes sense, right? Well, put a guy in the same position with a woman.
He goes out seeking a woman that is a bit of a challenge, a woman with choices.
If he can attract her attention, she might choose him.
He wants a woman that will select him above others.
It signifies to him that he is special.
On the other hand, if a man meets a woman that instantly gives the message that she'll follow him anywhere, he's likely to begin thinking she does not have many options.
After all, she's going after the first guy that spoke to her.
This isn't likely to make him feel special.
She must be desperate.
Now, even though a man thinks this, he may still take you home, but you won't be asked out on a date night.
My mother tried to tell me this as I was growing up.
She said some women are considered weekday girls, but what you want to be is a girl that is asked out for date night, typically a Friday or Saturday.
She explained that if you were not asked out on date night then a guy had someone else he was asking.
Growing up, I thought she was old fashioned, but there is some truth to what she said.
A woman that is selective and choosy will be revered over the woman that chases.
Men are programmed to chase.
They want to chase and be chosen, not the other way around.
I've seen so many women try the approach of chasing (I've been there too).
These women are immediately available to the man they have set their sites on.
All he has to do is look her way and make a marginal amount of effort, and she is sold.
Take a little care and look at it from the man's perspective.
It is in his nature to chase and posture for your attention.
Let him work for it.
Check out my blog and find out how easy dating can be for you! www.
DatingMadeEasyForWomen.
com
First a woman will outline what she has tried.
It usually involves numerous attempts at contact including phone calls, emails and/or text messages with little or no response.
This approach does not work.
Think of it in terms of animals, say birds.
Male birds are adorned with big plumes and colors.
They use their attributes to attract female birds by posturing and performing.
Other animals sing, dance and/or preen to get the attention of the female.
These displays are done to attract the female to choose one male above others.
The key point being that the female is doing the choosing, not the other way around.
Sounds a bit counter intuitive doesn't it, given that women and young girls are bombarded in the media by advertisements about how to improve our looks and presentation.
Magazines everywhere have bombshells on the covers, and magazines like Cosmopolitan, for one, almost always have an article about how to please your man.
The message is that we are the ones chosen and not the other way around.
When women prepare for a night out, it is usually with the intention of attracting the attention of men.
Women are so wrapped up in attracting Mr.
Right that they get into the mindset that they are the ones selected.
So, we do all we can to draw attention in order to be chosen.
The problem is that the mating rituals have not changed so much as we like to think.
Men still want to chase and be chosen.
Think about it.
Have you ever chased a man? I know a woman that once she sets her sites on a man, she basically throws herself at him.
She will wear the low cut shirts and flaunt her sex in order to turn his head.
She is a sure thing.
Of course, this works briefly and on an animalistic scale, but it rarely keeps a guy around for more than a wham, bam, and thank you maam.
The reason why is that men like the chase and they want to feel special.
Think if you were on a job interview.
You were selected for the position out of one hundred applicants.
You'd feel pretty good about yourself.
However, if you are the only applicant, you might feel like the company would take anyone that walked through the door.
Seems like to company is desperate.
If this company is not selective about hiring, there may be something wrong internally that you cannot see initially.
You are automatically suspicious and feel that you should look for other opportunities.
Makes sense, right? Well, put a guy in the same position with a woman.
He goes out seeking a woman that is a bit of a challenge, a woman with choices.
If he can attract her attention, she might choose him.
He wants a woman that will select him above others.
It signifies to him that he is special.
On the other hand, if a man meets a woman that instantly gives the message that she'll follow him anywhere, he's likely to begin thinking she does not have many options.
After all, she's going after the first guy that spoke to her.
This isn't likely to make him feel special.
She must be desperate.
Now, even though a man thinks this, he may still take you home, but you won't be asked out on a date night.
My mother tried to tell me this as I was growing up.
She said some women are considered weekday girls, but what you want to be is a girl that is asked out for date night, typically a Friday or Saturday.
She explained that if you were not asked out on date night then a guy had someone else he was asking.
Growing up, I thought she was old fashioned, but there is some truth to what she said.
A woman that is selective and choosy will be revered over the woman that chases.
Men are programmed to chase.
They want to chase and be chosen, not the other way around.
I've seen so many women try the approach of chasing (I've been there too).
These women are immediately available to the man they have set their sites on.
All he has to do is look her way and make a marginal amount of effort, and she is sold.
Take a little care and look at it from the man's perspective.
It is in his nature to chase and posture for your attention.
Let him work for it.
Check out my blog and find out how easy dating can be for you! www.
DatingMadeEasyForWomen.
com