I know how much pain a hurtful comment can dish out.
You likely do too.
We remember those times even the first times that something happened and you felt like it was going to kill you.
It could have been an unkind word or a broken heart.
No matter, what doesn't kill you will make you a little stronger.
For entrepreneurs especially women we have to keep this in mind.
I know when I went into business for myself it was because I didn't play well working for an overlord.
Not that all men are overload types of bosses some women are too.
It's that most women use their feelings to navigate how they are doing and what to do in the workplace.
When you start a business online, the door opens for the whole world to judge you the great news it that you also have the opportunity to remake or as I prefer to call it, re-invent yourself.
In record time, you can become Sally the coupon maven with a best seller on Amazon, and speaking gigs across the country or you can go from being a hair stylist in a dinky salon to a Beauty Engineer offering specialized spa styling for her clients.
So how do you handle a bad situation when it comes your way? We have to take a lesson from Kelly Clarkson's song, What Doesn't Kill You Will Make You A Little Stronger, and let that happen.
When it first occurs, don't think about it or address it.
This will be hard.
You may need to tell the person if there is one you will get back to them in one week or a few days.
If there isn't a person you can respond to just close the browser window, put the letter back in the envelope or in some way 'close' the event for now.
Our first reaction is to do something about it and that's because we feel it and it hurts as if it's going to kill us.
You know by now it's not likely to do that so take time first let go of the emotions around it.
Some years ago, a local TV personality that I was working on a new project with sent me an email by accident.
The bottom line is she had seen me speak and became my friend only to get fresh ideas for her TV program.
She accidentally sent me an email about it instead of one of her friends.
When I got this email, I was deeply hurt and felt like this would kill me inside.
I didn't want to work and that day I didn't do much but one thing I did do was close my browser and found something else to keep my mind busy.
A few days later, I emailed her and the intended parties letting them know I had been accidentally included in their private email.
That doing business with them would not happen and that I was thankful to find out their true intentions.
I got a little stronger that day.
I learned that everyone isn't as nice as I am and that I want to continue being nice but that I will never give business mentoring free or work on a new project idea with another person without a written agreement.
This hurt and it cut deeply, probably another song title if we looked hard enough, but it truly made me stronger both in how I can help others and do a successful business.
Whatever your business, there are more people looking to do business with you.
Don't let one or a few people keep you from succeeding.
One of my clients, an acupuncturist, got into a war turf war over infertility patients at a women's center.
This yearlong battle made my client lose her self-esteem and confidence.
It took us nearly a year to rebuild her mindset and get her back on track using the lessons she learned from this not so happy event.
If you're wondering what your take away should be today, where in your life do you have events that have made you stronger and how can you use what you learned to do something better or more effectively.
You likely do too.
We remember those times even the first times that something happened and you felt like it was going to kill you.
It could have been an unkind word or a broken heart.
No matter, what doesn't kill you will make you a little stronger.
For entrepreneurs especially women we have to keep this in mind.
I know when I went into business for myself it was because I didn't play well working for an overlord.
Not that all men are overload types of bosses some women are too.
It's that most women use their feelings to navigate how they are doing and what to do in the workplace.
When you start a business online, the door opens for the whole world to judge you the great news it that you also have the opportunity to remake or as I prefer to call it, re-invent yourself.
In record time, you can become Sally the coupon maven with a best seller on Amazon, and speaking gigs across the country or you can go from being a hair stylist in a dinky salon to a Beauty Engineer offering specialized spa styling for her clients.
So how do you handle a bad situation when it comes your way? We have to take a lesson from Kelly Clarkson's song, What Doesn't Kill You Will Make You A Little Stronger, and let that happen.
When it first occurs, don't think about it or address it.
This will be hard.
You may need to tell the person if there is one you will get back to them in one week or a few days.
If there isn't a person you can respond to just close the browser window, put the letter back in the envelope or in some way 'close' the event for now.
Our first reaction is to do something about it and that's because we feel it and it hurts as if it's going to kill us.
You know by now it's not likely to do that so take time first let go of the emotions around it.
Some years ago, a local TV personality that I was working on a new project with sent me an email by accident.
The bottom line is she had seen me speak and became my friend only to get fresh ideas for her TV program.
She accidentally sent me an email about it instead of one of her friends.
When I got this email, I was deeply hurt and felt like this would kill me inside.
I didn't want to work and that day I didn't do much but one thing I did do was close my browser and found something else to keep my mind busy.
A few days later, I emailed her and the intended parties letting them know I had been accidentally included in their private email.
That doing business with them would not happen and that I was thankful to find out their true intentions.
I got a little stronger that day.
I learned that everyone isn't as nice as I am and that I want to continue being nice but that I will never give business mentoring free or work on a new project idea with another person without a written agreement.
This hurt and it cut deeply, probably another song title if we looked hard enough, but it truly made me stronger both in how I can help others and do a successful business.
Whatever your business, there are more people looking to do business with you.
Don't let one or a few people keep you from succeeding.
One of my clients, an acupuncturist, got into a war turf war over infertility patients at a women's center.
This yearlong battle made my client lose her self-esteem and confidence.
It took us nearly a year to rebuild her mindset and get her back on track using the lessons she learned from this not so happy event.
If you're wondering what your take away should be today, where in your life do you have events that have made you stronger and how can you use what you learned to do something better or more effectively.