As an Asian guy growing up around the world I never had any notions that dating a white girl from a different country would be an issue at all.
However, upon coming to the United States for college I realized that cultural forces did put some pressures on what was acceptable and attainable.
More importantly, Asian guys like me often sabotage ourselves from going after the girl we really want, especially if she is a good looking white girl.
That being said, Indian guys and Asian guys, in terms of stereotypes are the worst with white girls in this country.
It is an obstacle in the beginning of game.
To put it bluntly: Negative Indian stereotypes include: smell bad, hairy, accent, dark, short, low class worker, etc.
Positive Indian stereotypes are: hard working, polite, kind, traditional and stable Negative Asian stereotypes include small ding dong, small, small eyes, glasses, geeky, feminine, bad accent.
Asians have some positive stereotypes: stable, rich, good at math, organized, detailed.
Stereotypes are based on mass truths and therefore we have to acknowledge these rules.
This is not to offend anyone, but in order for me to tell you how to overcome these problems we must first acknowledge them.
My dating coach, world renowned DJ Fuji once told me a very interesting story.
He said that he was coaching a big, well built and dominant black guy to talk to women at bars.
Now, this guy cannot just go up to a girl and say, "I'd like to do bad things to you" because his physical appearance is intimidating as it is.
Although there is dominance there, qualities women look for in attraction, it is also less safe and requires more comfort.
As a short Asian guy, Fuji recalled, he can go up to girls and say he wanted to sleep with them right away because he is not physically dominant right from the start.
He therefore not only minimizes his weaknesses, but also leverages his weaknesses as strengths.
We have come a long way from the 1960's when it was illegal to date interracially.
Today, interracial couples can be seen everywhere you go.
In much thanks for the cultural movements as well as cultural pioneers that defied the status quo.
Ironically, Asian men still build prisons in their minds.
Physically and legally we are now free to date whoever we like.
Don't let this newfound freedom be deterred by the negative thoughts in your head.
Oftentimes, most of your fears are baseless and at worst, has a very small effect.
In over analyzing and over assigning weight to the factor of culture and race, you've just invented something else to worry about that may not even be true.
Some quick tips I give to all of my Asian guy clients include the following: 1.
Work with your hair.
Asians have great hair.
Stylize it.
Color it.
Work it.
2.
Take off those glasses.
Get color contacts to enhance your look.
Studies have shown increased attraction (all variables held constant) for men and women with contrasting hair and eye colors 3.
Workout and have a strong frame.
Besides packing on muscle, remember that the way you move your body has a lot to do with how people perceive you 4.
Develop a strong sense of style that fits a particular sexual avatar.
Look at Asian celebrities in Japan or back home who have fan girls screaming for them.
Emulate them.
5.
Hangout with other non Asian people.
I see Asian guys hangout with Asian girls all the time.
There's nothing wrong with this, but vary up your social circle a little bit.
Step out of your comfort zone and meet more non Asian folks.
They will introduce you to the right white girls.
See more examples of Asian Guy White Girl couples at WhiteGirlswithAsianGuys.
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However, upon coming to the United States for college I realized that cultural forces did put some pressures on what was acceptable and attainable.
More importantly, Asian guys like me often sabotage ourselves from going after the girl we really want, especially if she is a good looking white girl.
That being said, Indian guys and Asian guys, in terms of stereotypes are the worst with white girls in this country.
It is an obstacle in the beginning of game.
To put it bluntly: Negative Indian stereotypes include: smell bad, hairy, accent, dark, short, low class worker, etc.
Positive Indian stereotypes are: hard working, polite, kind, traditional and stable Negative Asian stereotypes include small ding dong, small, small eyes, glasses, geeky, feminine, bad accent.
Asians have some positive stereotypes: stable, rich, good at math, organized, detailed.
Stereotypes are based on mass truths and therefore we have to acknowledge these rules.
This is not to offend anyone, but in order for me to tell you how to overcome these problems we must first acknowledge them.
My dating coach, world renowned DJ Fuji once told me a very interesting story.
He said that he was coaching a big, well built and dominant black guy to talk to women at bars.
Now, this guy cannot just go up to a girl and say, "I'd like to do bad things to you" because his physical appearance is intimidating as it is.
Although there is dominance there, qualities women look for in attraction, it is also less safe and requires more comfort.
As a short Asian guy, Fuji recalled, he can go up to girls and say he wanted to sleep with them right away because he is not physically dominant right from the start.
He therefore not only minimizes his weaknesses, but also leverages his weaknesses as strengths.
We have come a long way from the 1960's when it was illegal to date interracially.
Today, interracial couples can be seen everywhere you go.
In much thanks for the cultural movements as well as cultural pioneers that defied the status quo.
Ironically, Asian men still build prisons in their minds.
Physically and legally we are now free to date whoever we like.
Don't let this newfound freedom be deterred by the negative thoughts in your head.
Oftentimes, most of your fears are baseless and at worst, has a very small effect.
In over analyzing and over assigning weight to the factor of culture and race, you've just invented something else to worry about that may not even be true.
Some quick tips I give to all of my Asian guy clients include the following: 1.
Work with your hair.
Asians have great hair.
Stylize it.
Color it.
Work it.
2.
Take off those glasses.
Get color contacts to enhance your look.
Studies have shown increased attraction (all variables held constant) for men and women with contrasting hair and eye colors 3.
Workout and have a strong frame.
Besides packing on muscle, remember that the way you move your body has a lot to do with how people perceive you 4.
Develop a strong sense of style that fits a particular sexual avatar.
Look at Asian celebrities in Japan or back home who have fan girls screaming for them.
Emulate them.
5.
Hangout with other non Asian people.
I see Asian guys hangout with Asian girls all the time.
There's nothing wrong with this, but vary up your social circle a little bit.
Step out of your comfort zone and meet more non Asian folks.
They will introduce you to the right white girls.
See more examples of Asian Guy White Girl couples at WhiteGirlswithAsianGuys.
com