Ladies enjoy being led comfortably around the dance floor, not pushed, pulled, or yanked from one position to another.
In order to lead you must be strong gentleman.
Now that's true to some respect, but not like the term implies.
A strong leader is one who keeps his dance position still throughout the dance, without continually moving his arms.
Keep your arm placement in one position, and soon you will get the reputation for being a "smooth operator".
Men enjoy leading around the dance floor, going where they want to go, without being pulled, shoved, or yanked in various directions.
It has been my experience, after 40 years of teaching Beginners, the connection between the leader and follower is the most important factor to bring about a smooth partnership.
Ladies will be a more sought after dance partner if they are firm with their connection in partnership.
Remember ladies to step "when" the man steps, and to allow the man to step"where" he wants to lead you.
Once this happens, a perfect harmony will exist between the two of you on the dance floor, as you never felt before, you begin to dance as "one", not two people doing the same steps.
When the connection occurs between the leader and the follower, miracles will appear to happen...
Just kidding..
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Three things are necessary to become "as one" on the dance floor: 1.
All the steps will be the same size.
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The speed between you both will be the same speed.
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Lastly, you both will be going in the same direction, together "AS ONE".
Now that's the secret to leading and following, so enjoy yourselves..
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