We are what we think ourselves to be.
Hence if someone tells you that you are ugly, pathetic and useless you don't become all those things till you begin to believe in them.
That you and your ex were together at some point and liked each other enough to enter into a relationship bears testimony to the fact that you are 'not' all those things.
If he/she has told you so, ignore it, as we tend to say a lot of things when we are angry or hurt.
Despite this if you still want to get your ex back, read on...
Improve your appearance Make an effort in looking your best.
If you don't have that skill, take help from friends, family or a stylist.
Get a complete image makeover.
You will see that with a new look you will feel like a new person, one who is smart, confident and attractive.
Socialize Head out to have a good time with friends.
Use this opportunity to meet new people and make new friends.
Let your ex see the new you...
show him/her that you take failures with a pinch of salt and have the ability to take negative situations and turn them into positive actions.
Your ex will begin to see you in a new light and will start getting apprehensive of you linking up with someone else.
Flirt a little Once you start going out, it is a good idea to be seen with a date.
This can be more effective if your ex or his/her friends see you with another person.
Send out the warning signals to your ex implying that you are slowly and steadily moving on.
Always be civil Even though you are the one who was dumped, you need to make sure that you are civil and polite with your ex.
Given an opportunity thank him/her for making you see your flaws and help you become a better person.
Your ex will have to see what a confident, attractive and mature person you are and will want to get back with you soon.