If you are currently single because your boyfriend has left, this could be the guide for you. Of course your hurting all over right now but if you take the right steps, you will stand a much better chances at getting him back. It is crucial you apply these 4 tips as soon as possible though.
Without getting too over analytical, for the time being, realize that there are a whole host of reasons why couples split, there is even a good chance that your boyfriend left for an entirely different reason that the one you imagines. For now, keep yourself together and resolve to use these tips to help recover your lost love.
It is important, not to go to the desperate measures some people go to to get their ex back. Don't be one of those people who are desperate and will do practically anything because this could end up being the nail in the coffin. What you need to be doing is putting the dynamic back into your relationship that had him wanting you in the first place, in other words, you must kick start that spark again.
Remember, the more desperate you become, the more it will translate back to him and more than likely, the more he will end up pushing you away. You need to make him want you more than you want him right now.
Lets just use the analogy of the cat with the piece of string, remember what happens when you stop dangling it and let the cat have it? Right, the cat is bored of it almost instantly. Or the greyhounds at the race track, when they catch up with the rabbit, they no longer bother to chase it.
What are we saying here then? Its the age old rule of not being to available, if you ex knows where to find you, he most likely wont be the slightest bit bothered about whats going on in your life or if indeed your over him and moving on. So to make sure that doesn't happen, here's what your going to do.
1.
Do not be the one who contacts him. As crazy as this sounds right now it will acheive several things. Firstly, it will dissolve the concept he has of you as being ready and willing whenever he wants, (familiarity breed contempt). And it will cause him to start wondering and missing you.
2.
When, and he almost certainly will contact you, don't be cold and rude, be cool and act casual. Don't desperately hang on his every word and certainly be the one to end the call. Saying something like "it was good talking to you, I'm going to go now as I need to be somewhere".
3.
You will need to be practical and face the fact that he has left you, this will help become a little more detached and let you act naturally. This will come across in your voice and possibly body language if you should bump into each other.
4.
If you are having a hard time getting to grips with the situation, focus on some of the bad times, just to remind you he isn't perfect. The memory has a funny way of recreating events and letting you only see the best, why not turn it on its head.
The key is to let him start missing you, if you can make yourself believe you are over it and are moving on, you'll find strange coincidences happening, as if by magic he will come calling. Remember, a watched kettle never boils, let nature take its course.
Without getting too over analytical, for the time being, realize that there are a whole host of reasons why couples split, there is even a good chance that your boyfriend left for an entirely different reason that the one you imagines. For now, keep yourself together and resolve to use these tips to help recover your lost love.
It is important, not to go to the desperate measures some people go to to get their ex back. Don't be one of those people who are desperate and will do practically anything because this could end up being the nail in the coffin. What you need to be doing is putting the dynamic back into your relationship that had him wanting you in the first place, in other words, you must kick start that spark again.
Remember, the more desperate you become, the more it will translate back to him and more than likely, the more he will end up pushing you away. You need to make him want you more than you want him right now.
Lets just use the analogy of the cat with the piece of string, remember what happens when you stop dangling it and let the cat have it? Right, the cat is bored of it almost instantly. Or the greyhounds at the race track, when they catch up with the rabbit, they no longer bother to chase it.
What are we saying here then? Its the age old rule of not being to available, if you ex knows where to find you, he most likely wont be the slightest bit bothered about whats going on in your life or if indeed your over him and moving on. So to make sure that doesn't happen, here's what your going to do.
1.
Do not be the one who contacts him. As crazy as this sounds right now it will acheive several things. Firstly, it will dissolve the concept he has of you as being ready and willing whenever he wants, (familiarity breed contempt). And it will cause him to start wondering and missing you.
2.
When, and he almost certainly will contact you, don't be cold and rude, be cool and act casual. Don't desperately hang on his every word and certainly be the one to end the call. Saying something like "it was good talking to you, I'm going to go now as I need to be somewhere".
3.
You will need to be practical and face the fact that he has left you, this will help become a little more detached and let you act naturally. This will come across in your voice and possibly body language if you should bump into each other.
4.
If you are having a hard time getting to grips with the situation, focus on some of the bad times, just to remind you he isn't perfect. The memory has a funny way of recreating events and letting you only see the best, why not turn it on its head.
The key is to let him start missing you, if you can make yourself believe you are over it and are moving on, you'll find strange coincidences happening, as if by magic he will come calling. Remember, a watched kettle never boils, let nature take its course.