Stopping Your Divorce - Three Things Not to Do If You Want Your Wife Back
Is stopping your divorce the only thing on your mind right now? If your wife said she wants a divorce but you don't, it might seem like you can't do anything to stop it.
Sure, you can declare that you won't sign the papers.
You can fight back with all of your might.
But if your wife wants a divorce, she'll end up getting one whether you agree to it or not.
So really, the only way to go about stopping your divorce is to get your wife back and get her to agree to stay with you.
Here are three things not to do if your goal is to stop your divorce and get your wife back.
1.
Don't beg and plead with her to stay.
If your goal is stopping your divorce, you have to back off a bit.
You will only push your wife further away if you beg and plead with her every chance you get.
You have to be strong and not give her too much power in the situation.
Since divorce is a power struggle anyway, and the one making the decision tends to hold all of the power, you need to take some of your power back by not begging.
You are both adults here, and even if you don't want the divorce you still have a choice.
2.
Don't push things too quickly.
Even if your wife seems like she is on the fence and it seems like you're on the verge of stopping your divorce, you don't want to push the situation too fast.
Your wife might change her mind about the divorce over time, but right now it is a delicate situation.
If you try to get her to say that she wants to stop the divorce too quickly, she might feel like the reconciliation happened too soon.
You don't want to get your wife back too fast just to have her leave again in a few months.
3.
Don't sweep the problems under the rug.
Yes, when a reconciliation seems like it's about to happen, everyone involved is happy and excited.
But if you really want a chance at stopping your divorce, you have to work through the problems too.
It can seem easy to be "friends" with your wife and go on dates and spend time together.
But if you are ignoring the real work and not talking about your problems, they will rear their ugly heads the moment you get back together.
Take the time now, when you are in the middle of the separation or divorce proceedings, and work on what needs to be worked on.
Your marriage will be better in the end and hopefully you will never find yourself in this situation again!
Sure, you can declare that you won't sign the papers.
You can fight back with all of your might.
But if your wife wants a divorce, she'll end up getting one whether you agree to it or not.
So really, the only way to go about stopping your divorce is to get your wife back and get her to agree to stay with you.
Here are three things not to do if your goal is to stop your divorce and get your wife back.
1.
Don't beg and plead with her to stay.
If your goal is stopping your divorce, you have to back off a bit.
You will only push your wife further away if you beg and plead with her every chance you get.
You have to be strong and not give her too much power in the situation.
Since divorce is a power struggle anyway, and the one making the decision tends to hold all of the power, you need to take some of your power back by not begging.
You are both adults here, and even if you don't want the divorce you still have a choice.
2.
Don't push things too quickly.
Even if your wife seems like she is on the fence and it seems like you're on the verge of stopping your divorce, you don't want to push the situation too fast.
Your wife might change her mind about the divorce over time, but right now it is a delicate situation.
If you try to get her to say that she wants to stop the divorce too quickly, she might feel like the reconciliation happened too soon.
You don't want to get your wife back too fast just to have her leave again in a few months.
3.
Don't sweep the problems under the rug.
Yes, when a reconciliation seems like it's about to happen, everyone involved is happy and excited.
But if you really want a chance at stopping your divorce, you have to work through the problems too.
It can seem easy to be "friends" with your wife and go on dates and spend time together.
But if you are ignoring the real work and not talking about your problems, they will rear their ugly heads the moment you get back together.
Take the time now, when you are in the middle of the separation or divorce proceedings, and work on what needs to be worked on.
Your marriage will be better in the end and hopefully you will never find yourself in this situation again!