They were dating for over two years. It was right time for him to pop the questions in front of her. He made up his mind and had the lines by heart. He brought the best of dress for her and a nice sparkling sapphire ring. Their regular meeting was scheduled at their favorite restaurant. He reached before her and waited patiently. She arrived, looking stunning as always. She wore one of his favorite dresses. He was happy. As she arrived, he greeted and welcomed her. Guiding her to her seat, he complemented her as well. The atmosphere was really romantic and he was eager to propose to her. Soon as she seated, he got onto his knees and offered her the ring and asked her hand for marriage.

Very traditionally, leaving no scope for any mistake, he popped the question to her. She did not look surprised. But she did not answer in assertion. She declined his proposal with gentle words. He was shattered and did not know what to do. Some moments of tension passed away, he got back to reality and asked her for the reason. Looking very sad and filled with guilt, she responded, that she had fear of commitment. He was surprised as normally men have this fear. But here she was expressing herself to him and asking for understanding. He was stirred and shocked. The next day they went in to a psychologist for help. After listening them out, she explained them what it meant and what are the effects of such fears. As per science, commitment phobic mind perceives any decisions as permanent, feels the possibility of being caged or trapped forever with no means of escape.

Though it may not be true, the fear in mind takes over every other rational aspect and leads our thought process into just one direction. The psychologist explained that proper counseling and medication, mind reforming therapy, behavioral sessions for molding behavioral patterns surely help in leading a normal life by overcoming the fear. Pre marriage counseling also helps in understanding each other better, and giving full support and space for both the individuals to lead a comfortable life. Today stressful professional life leads to various problems in personal lives, pre marriage counseling helps young couples in many ways like dealing with real life situations, effective problem solving and many such aspects related to marriage before entering into wed-lock.