C. has tried to save her marriage, with not much success.
After we became close again he moved into my family house.
Soon after my father comitted suicide. He was really there for me at the worst time in my whole life. About two months after my father died he proposed. My family had concerns about this but he assured me that he was planning to do this before the tragedy and felt no reason to put it off.
9 months later I found myself married. Of course the first year was the best. We were still on high but that was soon to fade away. We have been through many hardships in the short two years we have been wed and our relationship is falling apart. We just can't seem to get along!
Whether it's that fact that he works non stop, rarely helps around the house, wants me to take care of him when he is sick but won't do the same for me or that he smokes pot on a daily basis -- I just can't stand it anymore. I have voiced all of my concerns to him, we have gone to marriage counseling, we have started reading books but he said I'm a nag and I push too hard so I stopped.
I stopped worrying about the dishes, laundry, reading our marriage help book but my counselor was correct.
She said that if she put the two of us in seperate corners and told us to come together that it would usually be me going to him so I stopped.
But he doesn't come to me now. He says I am still a nag, I am never happy, etc. I was on Celexa, a depression med, when my father passed and I stopped taking it around 6 months ago and I feel no changes as far as my behavior but now he blames the fact that I am un-happy in my marriage on taking the meds even though I have told him I have been off of them for 6 months.
He is a very spoiled and shelfish man. I knew this before we were wed. I just keep thinking to myself I know that love and marriage is a difficult thing but I don't want to give up on the things from my relationship I want most just because the man I am with does not seem to satisfy.
He promised me when we wed that he could be romantic (still haven't seen it), that he would not smoke pot everyday (it got worse), that he would help me and be a good listener and team member when it came to our finances (makes the committment and breaks it each time.)
It's just getting to the point that I am thinking about filing for divorce. I never thought I would be in this position but I just don't know what to do anymore.
We don't get along, we argue over everything, we seem unable to compromise, he is very double standard on too many issues and I am just too tired. I wonder if we every really had "That Love" in the beginning or if I just married because I wanted out of the situation I was in with the death of my father and crazy home I lived in. Please Help.
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Maybe you can help give me some advice, I have e-mailed others before and received no response. See my situation is very complicated. I am 25 and met my husband at 21 in college, we had one of those make-up/Break-up type relationships and finally one day he came to me after an 8-week "Break" and stated his love, etc.After we became close again he moved into my family house.
Soon after my father comitted suicide. He was really there for me at the worst time in my whole life. About two months after my father died he proposed. My family had concerns about this but he assured me that he was planning to do this before the tragedy and felt no reason to put it off.
9 months later I found myself married. Of course the first year was the best. We were still on high but that was soon to fade away. We have been through many hardships in the short two years we have been wed and our relationship is falling apart. We just can't seem to get along!
Whether it's that fact that he works non stop, rarely helps around the house, wants me to take care of him when he is sick but won't do the same for me or that he smokes pot on a daily basis -- I just can't stand it anymore. I have voiced all of my concerns to him, we have gone to marriage counseling, we have started reading books but he said I'm a nag and I push too hard so I stopped.
I stopped worrying about the dishes, laundry, reading our marriage help book but my counselor was correct.
She said that if she put the two of us in seperate corners and told us to come together that it would usually be me going to him so I stopped.
But he doesn't come to me now. He says I am still a nag, I am never happy, etc. I was on Celexa, a depression med, when my father passed and I stopped taking it around 6 months ago and I feel no changes as far as my behavior but now he blames the fact that I am un-happy in my marriage on taking the meds even though I have told him I have been off of them for 6 months.
He is a very spoiled and shelfish man. I knew this before we were wed. I just keep thinking to myself I know that love and marriage is a difficult thing but I don't want to give up on the things from my relationship I want most just because the man I am with does not seem to satisfy.
He promised me when we wed that he could be romantic (still haven't seen it), that he would not smoke pot everyday (it got worse), that he would help me and be a good listener and team member when it came to our finances (makes the committment and breaks it each time.)
It's just getting to the point that I am thinking about filing for divorce. I never thought I would be in this position but I just don't know what to do anymore.
We don't get along, we argue over everything, we seem unable to compromise, he is very double standard on too many issues and I am just too tired. I wonder if we every really had "That Love" in the beginning or if I just married because I wanted out of the situation I was in with the death of my father and crazy home I lived in. Please Help.
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