The first step is to discover what is eating you: emotionally.
In many cases, there is an underlying primary source that results in a secondary case of obesity.
In other words, something is eating at you even if it is no longer at the forefront of your mind, and as a result you turn to food for comfort.
Maybe you were teased as a child for being heavier than your classmates and as you got older you were never asked out on a date.
Food became a way to ease the hurt and it became your friend.
The pain of being rejected was never addressed, instead it became repressed as you grew into adulthood, but the effects remain.
Without thinking about it, you still turn to food as a source of comfort to ease stress, and to combat loneliness.
Physical, verbal, or sexual abuse are also common reasons that can and do lead to obesity.
When you were subjected to this horrible abuse, you had no control over the situation.
Again, food became a source of comfort and a means of control.
No one could take it away from you.
To this day the pain of your past lives with you in the background.
You are afraid that if you let go, you will not have control when the exact opposite is true.
Letting go and healing from your past is an important step in gaining control of your life, and your weight.
It is not until you understand what is eating you that you can actually move forward.
You must learn to accept yourself and realize that you are wonderfully created, worthy of friends and love.
Your past is not who you are, and your weight does not determine your worth.
Weight loss is a personal endeavor that will only be successful when you realize that you must do it for yourself first because you are worth it.
Your life matters, and there are people who need you to be here whether it be your spouse or your children, but I will say it again; you must help yourself first.
Helping yourself does not mean that you have to strike out alone in the mass confusion of dieting.
The most important thing you can do is have a support system of people who understand exactly what you are going through, and are traveling down the same road.
A support system can keep you focused on your goals, and provide encouragement when the going gets rough.
In many cases, there is an underlying primary source that results in a secondary case of obesity.
In other words, something is eating at you even if it is no longer at the forefront of your mind, and as a result you turn to food for comfort.
Maybe you were teased as a child for being heavier than your classmates and as you got older you were never asked out on a date.
Food became a way to ease the hurt and it became your friend.
The pain of being rejected was never addressed, instead it became repressed as you grew into adulthood, but the effects remain.
Without thinking about it, you still turn to food as a source of comfort to ease stress, and to combat loneliness.
Physical, verbal, or sexual abuse are also common reasons that can and do lead to obesity.
When you were subjected to this horrible abuse, you had no control over the situation.
Again, food became a source of comfort and a means of control.
No one could take it away from you.
To this day the pain of your past lives with you in the background.
You are afraid that if you let go, you will not have control when the exact opposite is true.
Letting go and healing from your past is an important step in gaining control of your life, and your weight.
It is not until you understand what is eating you that you can actually move forward.
You must learn to accept yourself and realize that you are wonderfully created, worthy of friends and love.
Your past is not who you are, and your weight does not determine your worth.
Weight loss is a personal endeavor that will only be successful when you realize that you must do it for yourself first because you are worth it.
Your life matters, and there are people who need you to be here whether it be your spouse or your children, but I will say it again; you must help yourself first.
Helping yourself does not mean that you have to strike out alone in the mass confusion of dieting.
The most important thing you can do is have a support system of people who understand exactly what you are going through, and are traveling down the same road.
A support system can keep you focused on your goals, and provide encouragement when the going gets rough.