Marriage is a university of no graduation. Before you go into this union, it is very necessary to be properly prepared because failing to plan is planning to fail. Before you start courting someone, you should learn and know as much as you can about yourself, marriage and life in general. The more you understand what this partnership is about the better equipped you are to make wise decisions during the courtship, engagement stages and command favorable situations in your marital union.
People have different motives for marrying. Some look at marriage as an avenue for boosting family income, as that celebration that enables them to have right to family property and others who are anxious to travel overseas marry because many embassies require a marriage certificate. Besides, many marry in search of happiness and companionship. No matter the motive you have, I tell you that marriage is for those who are whole and mature. To have a successful marriage, you must prepare and develop in these areas: intellectual, physical, financial, social and spiritual.
AREA 1 Intellectual Preparation: If you are not informed, you are deformed. Note that marriage makes the smallest unit of the nation and it provides the needed environment for ascertaining the behavior and quality of the next generation. Communication is very necessary in your union. Lack of it weakens love and makes living together with your spouse become unpleasant. Intellectual knowledge can be obtained from the Bible, good books and magazines. In addition, marriage seminars, symposia, relationship conferences, visits to marriage counselors, chats with mature and God-fearing couples are additional ways of gaining intellectual knowledge about marriage. The success of your marital relationship is in your hands. You shall be matured in your mind and heart to be able to handle situations that arise in marriage effectively. Know how to handle your emotions and feelings. Grow up to go up!
AREA 2 Physical Preparation: Taking care of yourself is one of the duties you owe yourself. Packaging matters a lot because people address you the way you present yourself. You should know how to carry and comport yourself. At this point defining your self concept which is the totality your self-image, self-esteem and self-ideal helps you to come to a focus with the real you. As a woman, take good care of your hair, observe personal hygiene and be respectful to people. People are watching you, dress properly; you don't have to show your private part to attract a partner. People respect you and want to associate with you when they see you have a good sense of dressing. As a man be neat, humane and mature. You don't have to wear expensive clothes to look good but taking proper care of the little that you have and wearing it with dignity makes you a person of good mark.
AREA 3 Financial Preparation: The burden of financial preparation no longer rest on the man alone in this day and age. If you are a woman try to build a good financial stand for yourself so that you don't become a burden to your spouse but a helpmeet. Every man should be financially stable before going into marriage. It is foolishness to marry a woman because of her money. Learn how to spend money wisely. Being financially prepared for marriage doesn't mean that you must have all the money in the world. Have worthwhile investments. Money is a tool that helps you meet needs therefore its essential like oxygen for you to enjoy a beautiful life.
AREA 4 Social Preparation: This refers to the need of interacting and networking with others. You are not an island. You need the help of others and you can offer them your help too. Create synergies and friendship that will better your life. Be sociable and respectful. Care for people.
AREA 5 Spiritual Preparation: Every human has a spirit. Developing your spiritual capabilities enhance you to listen to your intuition, be able to take proper decision at the right time and stand by it. Give respect to divinity and humanity.
Preparation in these areas positions you for success in marriage relationship. Your marriage must succeed if you pay now to play later. You don't have to be in marriage to start preparing for it. It's now that you are not in it that you have the best opportunity to perfect your person and make yourself marriageable. Never forget that your marital circumstances depend on your marriage ability.
People have different motives for marrying. Some look at marriage as an avenue for boosting family income, as that celebration that enables them to have right to family property and others who are anxious to travel overseas marry because many embassies require a marriage certificate. Besides, many marry in search of happiness and companionship. No matter the motive you have, I tell you that marriage is for those who are whole and mature. To have a successful marriage, you must prepare and develop in these areas: intellectual, physical, financial, social and spiritual.
AREA 1 Intellectual Preparation: If you are not informed, you are deformed. Note that marriage makes the smallest unit of the nation and it provides the needed environment for ascertaining the behavior and quality of the next generation. Communication is very necessary in your union. Lack of it weakens love and makes living together with your spouse become unpleasant. Intellectual knowledge can be obtained from the Bible, good books and magazines. In addition, marriage seminars, symposia, relationship conferences, visits to marriage counselors, chats with mature and God-fearing couples are additional ways of gaining intellectual knowledge about marriage. The success of your marital relationship is in your hands. You shall be matured in your mind and heart to be able to handle situations that arise in marriage effectively. Know how to handle your emotions and feelings. Grow up to go up!
AREA 2 Physical Preparation: Taking care of yourself is one of the duties you owe yourself. Packaging matters a lot because people address you the way you present yourself. You should know how to carry and comport yourself. At this point defining your self concept which is the totality your self-image, self-esteem and self-ideal helps you to come to a focus with the real you. As a woman, take good care of your hair, observe personal hygiene and be respectful to people. People are watching you, dress properly; you don't have to show your private part to attract a partner. People respect you and want to associate with you when they see you have a good sense of dressing. As a man be neat, humane and mature. You don't have to wear expensive clothes to look good but taking proper care of the little that you have and wearing it with dignity makes you a person of good mark.
AREA 3 Financial Preparation: The burden of financial preparation no longer rest on the man alone in this day and age. If you are a woman try to build a good financial stand for yourself so that you don't become a burden to your spouse but a helpmeet. Every man should be financially stable before going into marriage. It is foolishness to marry a woman because of her money. Learn how to spend money wisely. Being financially prepared for marriage doesn't mean that you must have all the money in the world. Have worthwhile investments. Money is a tool that helps you meet needs therefore its essential like oxygen for you to enjoy a beautiful life.
AREA 4 Social Preparation: This refers to the need of interacting and networking with others. You are not an island. You need the help of others and you can offer them your help too. Create synergies and friendship that will better your life. Be sociable and respectful. Care for people.
AREA 5 Spiritual Preparation: Every human has a spirit. Developing your spiritual capabilities enhance you to listen to your intuition, be able to take proper decision at the right time and stand by it. Give respect to divinity and humanity.
Preparation in these areas positions you for success in marriage relationship. Your marriage must succeed if you pay now to play later. You don't have to be in marriage to start preparing for it. It's now that you are not in it that you have the best opportunity to perfect your person and make yourself marriageable. Never forget that your marital circumstances depend on your marriage ability.