'If You Keep Doing The Same Thing Over Again You Will Keep Getting The Same Result' The saying above is one of the cornerstones of my work, therefore if you, or someone you are working with, continues to do the same thing then they will continue to get the same outcome.
Therefore, my job as a coach when working with people, is to help them make changes so they get a different result.
If, for example, when you get in the car today you change the frequency on your radio from FM to AM then you will get a different radio station, you have to! There can be no other result.
Therefore, when you look at what you do with your weight, are you really making changes which will affect the final result? I see many people who have "failed" on a diet time and time again giving it one more try.
The problem of course is, if they failed last time and are just doing it exactly the same way again, why would it suddenly work for them? Diets are great.
They have a function, which is to get you slim.
Ultimately, all diets that control calories will work, so why do so many people fail on them? We all know that if we eat less calories than we burn then we can't fail but to get slim, and yet the obesity problem is getting worse.
The reason, of course, is that so many of us use food for other reasons than nutrition.
I used to use food for comfort, to relieve boredom and for many other reasons and without dealing with the true issues then all I was ever going to do was rent some small jeans for a while.
If I look at myself then I tried absolutely every diet under the sun.
I did everything from the spinach and steak diet, through to the slimming clubs, through Atkins and a whole host of diets but never found success.
The reality is that I didn't actually change anything, all I did was try a different diet every time and blamed the previous diet for not working for me.
When I finally did reduce my weight I made some major changes.
For a start, I had a realistic target that I really wanted to achieve.
I believed that I could do it and never questioned myself.
I could see nothing but positivity in becoming slim, therefore I totally changed my mindset and I got a different final result.
So when people come and talk to me 1-2-1 I am fascinated to know if they have not been successful on loads of others diets and why doing another one is going to make them succeed.
If someone overweight understands the true reasons they got big then they have the choice to do something different.
I love working with successful people.
For me, what is more important in a dieter is that they are happy, and therefore, I am a happiness counsellor with a bit of dieting advice on the side.
If a dieter is truly happy being themselves, and with their life, then they can, and will, be slim.
If a dieter believes that they are "doomed to fail" as they have so many times before then they have already made a decision to fail.
So if you are currently on a diet, struggling to get back on a diet or debating whether to do a diet, then my advice is instead of just thinking which diet is next, take a step back! Look at why you want to be slim? What changes are you going to make both short term to allow weight reduction, and also long term to ensure you maintain your new figure.
If you change the way you think about yourself and your weight you will ALWAYS get a different result.
The day I became slim was the day I actually believed I could do it.
It's just a shame for me I spent 17 years believing I would fail and doing that instead.
Being slim is 99% in your mind and 1% in the diet you choose.
Therefore be nice to yourself, and realise that although in the past you may not have got the result you wanted, the next time you can, if you choose to.
Remember overeating is a behaviour and not a disease, therefore you can't cure being big, you just need to change the behaviour, and that is possible in everyone! If you answer these questions to yourself truthfully and search out the answers then you can make a fantastic detour on your journey and achieve amazing things.
What do you need to do to get better at managing your weight? What do slim people do that makes them slim and what can you do to copy that? What can you do to enjoy weight management more today? How good can you become at weight management? How much fun can you have while doing that? What is the biggest change you can make today that will have a positive outcome in terms of your weight? and of course What stops you doing it?
Therefore, my job as a coach when working with people, is to help them make changes so they get a different result.
If, for example, when you get in the car today you change the frequency on your radio from FM to AM then you will get a different radio station, you have to! There can be no other result.
Therefore, when you look at what you do with your weight, are you really making changes which will affect the final result? I see many people who have "failed" on a diet time and time again giving it one more try.
The problem of course is, if they failed last time and are just doing it exactly the same way again, why would it suddenly work for them? Diets are great.
They have a function, which is to get you slim.
Ultimately, all diets that control calories will work, so why do so many people fail on them? We all know that if we eat less calories than we burn then we can't fail but to get slim, and yet the obesity problem is getting worse.
The reason, of course, is that so many of us use food for other reasons than nutrition.
I used to use food for comfort, to relieve boredom and for many other reasons and without dealing with the true issues then all I was ever going to do was rent some small jeans for a while.
If I look at myself then I tried absolutely every diet under the sun.
I did everything from the spinach and steak diet, through to the slimming clubs, through Atkins and a whole host of diets but never found success.
The reality is that I didn't actually change anything, all I did was try a different diet every time and blamed the previous diet for not working for me.
When I finally did reduce my weight I made some major changes.
For a start, I had a realistic target that I really wanted to achieve.
I believed that I could do it and never questioned myself.
I could see nothing but positivity in becoming slim, therefore I totally changed my mindset and I got a different final result.
So when people come and talk to me 1-2-1 I am fascinated to know if they have not been successful on loads of others diets and why doing another one is going to make them succeed.
If someone overweight understands the true reasons they got big then they have the choice to do something different.
I love working with successful people.
For me, what is more important in a dieter is that they are happy, and therefore, I am a happiness counsellor with a bit of dieting advice on the side.
If a dieter is truly happy being themselves, and with their life, then they can, and will, be slim.
If a dieter believes that they are "doomed to fail" as they have so many times before then they have already made a decision to fail.
So if you are currently on a diet, struggling to get back on a diet or debating whether to do a diet, then my advice is instead of just thinking which diet is next, take a step back! Look at why you want to be slim? What changes are you going to make both short term to allow weight reduction, and also long term to ensure you maintain your new figure.
If you change the way you think about yourself and your weight you will ALWAYS get a different result.
The day I became slim was the day I actually believed I could do it.
It's just a shame for me I spent 17 years believing I would fail and doing that instead.
Being slim is 99% in your mind and 1% in the diet you choose.
Therefore be nice to yourself, and realise that although in the past you may not have got the result you wanted, the next time you can, if you choose to.
Remember overeating is a behaviour and not a disease, therefore you can't cure being big, you just need to change the behaviour, and that is possible in everyone! If you answer these questions to yourself truthfully and search out the answers then you can make a fantastic detour on your journey and achieve amazing things.
What do you need to do to get better at managing your weight? What do slim people do that makes them slim and what can you do to copy that? What can you do to enjoy weight management more today? How good can you become at weight management? How much fun can you have while doing that? What is the biggest change you can make today that will have a positive outcome in terms of your weight? and of course What stops you doing it?