If you recently broke up with your lover or spouse, you may be desperately trying to get them back.
Perhaps you tried all sorts of strategies and tactics, without much success.
Well, here is some simple, fresh advice for relationships that are in trouble or have ended, that I am sure will help you.
Two pieces of advice, actually.
Here they are: 1.
Stop 2.
Send a card Let me explain.
The very first thing to do is to stop everything.
Do nothing for a few days or weeks.
Do not contact your ex.
No phone or text messages, or emails.
That also means do not just "happen" to be where you know he will be passing or hanging out.
That is called stalking.
This is a tough time for you and your ex.
You tend to go a little insane at first, as if part of your body has been cut off.
The best advice for relationships at this point is to stop all attempts to see and contact your ex for a while.
If you do not, you may later look back on this period and realize that you made a fool of yourself.
And all your friends (and your ex's friends) will know it too.
Take a week or two to think and reflect.
What went so wrong in the relationship? What went right? Was it really all their fault? Or do you have to take some responsibility for the breakup as well? If you cannot find one or a couple of problem areas, maybe the difficulty is that you just got too comfortable with each other.
You took each other for granted.
You stopped trying, and soon got bored with each other.
Reignite your partnership by always looking your best, trying new and exciting things, and telling (and showing!) your mate how much you love them.
On to Step 2.
After a couple of weeks have slipped by and you have had a chance to clear your mind, write a short, handwritten note to your ex.
Use a calm, dignified tone in the letter.
Agree to the breakup, say it is best for both of you, you hope they are well, etc.
Why on earth would you agree to the breakup when all you want is to get him/her back, quick? There are several reasons.
By accepting the separation, you ease and deflect your ex's anger and hurt.
You are also showing that you accept and respect their decision.
Here is some more good advice for relationships, even though you may find it crazy at first.
Give the impression that you are letting them go, without actually saying it in so many words.
Your ex will also begin to heal and feel better.
Do not use a plain piece of paper for this note.
Get a pleasing, happy card and envelope from the stationary store.
This shows that you put some effort and thought into the note, and by extension, into your relationship.
Such a note is more personal, longer lasting and has more impact than a text message or phone call.
Make sure it has plenty of blank space.
But do not fill it up completely.
Keep it short.
Send it off to your ex.
In reality, this is just a tool, your opening move.
You are giving the impression that you are letting your former mate go, in order to get them back later.
Your ex may respond that they just want to be friends.
This often means they just want to be friends for now.
Accept this as well, with good grace.
It is your opportunity to slowly and patiently approach your ex, and start to rebuild your life together.
Perhaps you tried all sorts of strategies and tactics, without much success.
Well, here is some simple, fresh advice for relationships that are in trouble or have ended, that I am sure will help you.
Two pieces of advice, actually.
Here they are: 1.
Stop 2.
Send a card Let me explain.
The very first thing to do is to stop everything.
Do nothing for a few days or weeks.
Do not contact your ex.
No phone or text messages, or emails.
That also means do not just "happen" to be where you know he will be passing or hanging out.
That is called stalking.
This is a tough time for you and your ex.
You tend to go a little insane at first, as if part of your body has been cut off.
The best advice for relationships at this point is to stop all attempts to see and contact your ex for a while.
If you do not, you may later look back on this period and realize that you made a fool of yourself.
And all your friends (and your ex's friends) will know it too.
Take a week or two to think and reflect.
What went so wrong in the relationship? What went right? Was it really all their fault? Or do you have to take some responsibility for the breakup as well? If you cannot find one or a couple of problem areas, maybe the difficulty is that you just got too comfortable with each other.
You took each other for granted.
You stopped trying, and soon got bored with each other.
Reignite your partnership by always looking your best, trying new and exciting things, and telling (and showing!) your mate how much you love them.
On to Step 2.
After a couple of weeks have slipped by and you have had a chance to clear your mind, write a short, handwritten note to your ex.
Use a calm, dignified tone in the letter.
Agree to the breakup, say it is best for both of you, you hope they are well, etc.
Why on earth would you agree to the breakup when all you want is to get him/her back, quick? There are several reasons.
By accepting the separation, you ease and deflect your ex's anger and hurt.
You are also showing that you accept and respect their decision.
Here is some more good advice for relationships, even though you may find it crazy at first.
Give the impression that you are letting them go, without actually saying it in so many words.
Your ex will also begin to heal and feel better.
Do not use a plain piece of paper for this note.
Get a pleasing, happy card and envelope from the stationary store.
This shows that you put some effort and thought into the note, and by extension, into your relationship.
Such a note is more personal, longer lasting and has more impact than a text message or phone call.
Make sure it has plenty of blank space.
But do not fill it up completely.
Keep it short.
Send it off to your ex.
In reality, this is just a tool, your opening move.
You are giving the impression that you are letting your former mate go, in order to get them back later.
Your ex may respond that they just want to be friends.
This often means they just want to be friends for now.
Accept this as well, with good grace.
It is your opportunity to slowly and patiently approach your ex, and start to rebuild your life together.