Divorces are tough, pure and simple.
Even if the marriage wasn't a happy one, divorce proceedings can put you through the emotional wringer, with the caustic nature of divvying up an entire relationship's worth of property, investments, and debts, deciding what to do with children, and coping with the end of some of your hopes and dreams.
A lot of people have a hard time with this aspect of the divorce, going through a mourning process similar to the one that attends the death of a close friend or family member.
But life goes on, whether you're ready for it or not, and you do have to pick up the pieces and move on if you're going to have a healthy life.
So if you've seen your marriage end and are sitting there wondering what happens from here, the following pieces of advice may come in useful to you:

• Don't rush yourself.
  Everyone moves at their own pace, and you can't measure your own growth against that of others.
  It's OK to need some time to cope with your feelings.
  
• Don't wallow.
  All that being said, at a certain point coping becomes self-pity and stagnant inaction.
  When you are ready to move on, your life will be out there waiting for you.
  There will come a time when you'll need to go and claim it.
  
• Your friends and family are there for you.
  Your loved ones are your social safety net.
  They're there for you in your time of need.
  Humans are social animals, and we need to feel the love and care of those around us.
  Don't try to block yourself off from these emotions in your time of need.
  On the other hand, though, you don't want to overburden them with neediness and negativity.
  While they're there for you, they probably also have feelings of their own about the divorce that you need to respect.
  
• Meet people.
  When you're moving on after a major life change, it can help to find some new people to share that experience with.
  If you are ready to go back to the dating world, finding some new, single friends to go through that with can be very beneficial.
  
• Have fun.
  Easier said then done, yes, but it's important to remember that at the end of the day, you're only alive once.
  Try to enjoy yourself as much as you can.
  After the pain of the divorce is over, there'll be a time again for you to be happy.