Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Prince William and Kate Middleton. Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore. Your best friend and her perfect boyfriend - Yes, you see another couple and you cannot help thinking: how do they act at home, or are they really that in love? Part of these thoughts is plain curiosity but another part of these is you are dying to know how your union with your own boyfriend compares to theirs.
Psychologically, it is a human nature to compare you to other couples or to use them as bases of comparisons. On the upside, you can learn from the way friends carry their relationship. However, the problem of this comparison arises when the assumptions you make, whether it is good or bad affects how you view and enjoy your OWN bond.
Therefore, it is essential to understand what really goes on couples, behind closed doors. This knowledge can give you a good perspective on your own relationship and help you realize the reason to celebrate your own happiness with your man, than trying to keep up with the Jones'.
Surely, you see this in every social circle: THE COUPLE - you know, one of those dynamic duos that are so interesting, so hooked and crazy in love with each other who seem so in sync; and unless your too envious to say, you would immediately tell them that they are very fabulous, perfect couple. This would result to the idea of having the "perfect" couple try extra hard to be super perfect so that when they come around you, they were able to maintain that status, in your eyes. However, this style can be discouraging to you since you may feel secondary compared to them, as if you and your man are not very compatible to each other.
So you have to remember these:
1. When they are all alone, the so called perfect couple is nothing but ordinary couples, and the way they shine in social gatherings doesn't mean it is part of their usual rapport. Don't hold yourselves up to an unrealistic standard because they have the same issues like all partnership does.
2. The more couple make out, be very mushy baby talk in public, the less strong bond they may have. According to experts, a couple that gets way too physical in front of others is likely covering for a lack or no intimacy at their own turf. Exaggerated affection may be the signs of masking the feelings of emptiness or inadequacy. This means that you don't have to assume that hands off duo has LOTS of problems. This may mean that they want to keep each intimate moment on their own.
3. All relationships have flip sides. You might be very envious of your friend's A-cut, super clear, big and brilliant engagement ring to the point that you feel a momentary blindness but you should know that these things comes with a cost, and by cost, I don't mean the price tag. All relationships has ups and downs - maybe your friend's partner surely makes lots of money, and it would also imply that he has less time for her, is never home or just plain workaholic.
So you see, comparison is pointless. When you keep comparing, these might lead you to living very unhealthy relationships, something that is irreparable. So celebrate your uniqueness to other couples - because every couple is special in one way or another.
Psychologically, it is a human nature to compare you to other couples or to use them as bases of comparisons. On the upside, you can learn from the way friends carry their relationship. However, the problem of this comparison arises when the assumptions you make, whether it is good or bad affects how you view and enjoy your OWN bond.
Therefore, it is essential to understand what really goes on couples, behind closed doors. This knowledge can give you a good perspective on your own relationship and help you realize the reason to celebrate your own happiness with your man, than trying to keep up with the Jones'.
Surely, you see this in every social circle: THE COUPLE - you know, one of those dynamic duos that are so interesting, so hooked and crazy in love with each other who seem so in sync; and unless your too envious to say, you would immediately tell them that they are very fabulous, perfect couple. This would result to the idea of having the "perfect" couple try extra hard to be super perfect so that when they come around you, they were able to maintain that status, in your eyes. However, this style can be discouraging to you since you may feel secondary compared to them, as if you and your man are not very compatible to each other.
So you have to remember these:
1. When they are all alone, the so called perfect couple is nothing but ordinary couples, and the way they shine in social gatherings doesn't mean it is part of their usual rapport. Don't hold yourselves up to an unrealistic standard because they have the same issues like all partnership does.
2. The more couple make out, be very mushy baby talk in public, the less strong bond they may have. According to experts, a couple that gets way too physical in front of others is likely covering for a lack or no intimacy at their own turf. Exaggerated affection may be the signs of masking the feelings of emptiness or inadequacy. This means that you don't have to assume that hands off duo has LOTS of problems. This may mean that they want to keep each intimate moment on their own.
3. All relationships have flip sides. You might be very envious of your friend's A-cut, super clear, big and brilliant engagement ring to the point that you feel a momentary blindness but you should know that these things comes with a cost, and by cost, I don't mean the price tag. All relationships has ups and downs - maybe your friend's partner surely makes lots of money, and it would also imply that he has less time for her, is never home or just plain workaholic.
So you see, comparison is pointless. When you keep comparing, these might lead you to living very unhealthy relationships, something that is irreparable. So celebrate your uniqueness to other couples - because every couple is special in one way or another.