Arguing with the one you love most in your life is one of the most counterproductive things in the world.
While some arguments in a relationship is actually healthy and can bring two people closer together, constant arguing will drive a rift between you two and possibly even cause a breakup or divorce.
But don't worry, because if you follow these 5 simple steps, you will learn how to stop arguing with your spouse.
1.
Identify what the real conflict is about.
This is probably the most important step you can take.
Many couples will argue over every little thing, but they never get to the real issue that needs to be solved.
Is there a deeper issue that you and your spouse need to discuss? 2.
Listen to your spouse.
Instead of talking back and forth, set an allotted time for one of you to say everything they need to say.
Once the time is up, its the other persons turn.
3.
Speak in terms of how you feel, rather than what your partner is doing to you.
Saying "I feel very distant from you," is much better than saying, "you never spend time with me anymore.
" Its much harder for someone to argue with your feelings.
4.
Don't play the blame game and do not insult each other.
Stick to the issue you are currently arguing about and don't say hurtful things that may make things worse.
5.
Take a break if the argument gets too intense.
If you notice things starting to turn ugly, drop the argument until later in the day and allow yourselves time to cool down.
So there you go, if you follow these 5 steps, you will have learned how to stop arguing with your spouse.
These may take some practice, but try to be conscious of them while arguing and do your best to follow them.