The time following a loss tends to consist of specific stages, and the break-up of a serious relationship is quite the loss.
You've woken up in the morning in denial, crestfallen when you realize your ex isn't in the bed next to you.
You've stumbled across something belonging to your ex and thrown it into the trash in anger.
You've called your ex in the middle of the night after a bit too much to drink, pleading and bargaining for a second chance.
And you've stayed inside for a week straight wearing nothing but pajamas, depression heavy on your shoulders.
And yet when it comes to acceptance, the next logical step, you find yourself unwilling.
You know in your heart you both worked well together.
You've tried the overbearing means of winning your ex back; now it's time to turn those stages of loss into something more helpful.
Here's a step-by-step review of how to approach getting your ex back: 1.
Think long and hard about your relationship, when the rift started and what exacerbated it.
Even write out a list of problems, remembering that the blame never belongs all to one party.
Be as fair and objective in your assessment as possible.
Change the denial into self-awareness.
2.
You've thought about the problems; now think about what worked.
Instead of being angry at what went wrong be aware and thankful for everything that went right.
Your ex might want to dwell on the bad; have this list ready to counter it.
3.
Understand where you're willing to compromise.
You can't change completely to satisfy another, any more than you can honestly expect someone to change for you.
During the break-up your ex likely highlighted everything he or she disliked about you; start from there and think up bargains that your ex might agree to.
4.
Throughout everything, remain positive! Winning your ex back may take longer than overnight.
Letting missteps disillusion you will only lengthen things.
Besides, being persistently positive about why you should get back together is a much better argument for convincing your ex than depression.
5.
Finally, if all goes well, you'll be able to find acceptance - your ex accepting you back into his or her life, where you belong! If you feel that your not getting back your ex, seek help.
Thousands get their ex back by following the correct sound advice, you can to.
You've woken up in the morning in denial, crestfallen when you realize your ex isn't in the bed next to you.
You've stumbled across something belonging to your ex and thrown it into the trash in anger.
You've called your ex in the middle of the night after a bit too much to drink, pleading and bargaining for a second chance.
And you've stayed inside for a week straight wearing nothing but pajamas, depression heavy on your shoulders.
And yet when it comes to acceptance, the next logical step, you find yourself unwilling.
You know in your heart you both worked well together.
You've tried the overbearing means of winning your ex back; now it's time to turn those stages of loss into something more helpful.
Here's a step-by-step review of how to approach getting your ex back: 1.
Think long and hard about your relationship, when the rift started and what exacerbated it.
Even write out a list of problems, remembering that the blame never belongs all to one party.
Be as fair and objective in your assessment as possible.
Change the denial into self-awareness.
2.
You've thought about the problems; now think about what worked.
Instead of being angry at what went wrong be aware and thankful for everything that went right.
Your ex might want to dwell on the bad; have this list ready to counter it.
3.
Understand where you're willing to compromise.
You can't change completely to satisfy another, any more than you can honestly expect someone to change for you.
During the break-up your ex likely highlighted everything he or she disliked about you; start from there and think up bargains that your ex might agree to.
4.
Throughout everything, remain positive! Winning your ex back may take longer than overnight.
Letting missteps disillusion you will only lengthen things.
Besides, being persistently positive about why you should get back together is a much better argument for convincing your ex than depression.
5.
Finally, if all goes well, you'll be able to find acceptance - your ex accepting you back into his or her life, where you belong! If you feel that your not getting back your ex, seek help.
Thousands get their ex back by following the correct sound advice, you can to.