After you have spent sufficient time on cleaning out the emotional debris from your subconscious, you have healed that little girl or boy within you, you have reclaimed your self-worth and raised your self-worth, it is now time to get Love's House in order.
What is Love's House? Well, according to Miss Iyanla Vanzant, Love's House is our inner self.
Digging up emotional debris from our subconscious will bring up a lot of pain internally.
As a result, we will be drawn to others who are also in pain.
When we are in pain, it will be difficult to stand fully in Love's House.
Now that we have expunged all that pain that was preventing our life from being in balance, it is now time to open the doors and the windows of our life and let some fresh air to enter.
Ms.
Vanzant likened Love's House to that of a five-story house consisting of The Basement, First Floor, Second Floor, Third Floor and The Attic.
Each floors deals with specific situations and emotions starting with The Basement level.
As we heal internally and start to look at ourselves in healthier light, we will start to climb up to the higher floors.
Even after we have climbed up to those floors, if we still have some left over emotional residue from the lower floors, then life will send us right back down to those floors to clear up and or heal those left over emotions.
When we have cleaned out those lower levels within us, then we resume our climb to the higher floors.
When we are smack dab in the middle of a "meantime" experience, everything will seem as if it is crashing down on our heads.
Nothing seems to be going right, while everything seems to be going wrong.
Relationships that we once held dear have crumbled, you may have lost your job, suffered a deep emotional loss of a loved one or you may have been diagnosed with a debilitating illness.
Yes, those are real life issues and not a poker game.
While you are in the middle of a meantime, it will be difficult to handle the insensitivity of others who do not understand what you are going through, where you are coming from or even where you are going.
They will apply their level of thinking, being and reasoning to your situation.
Do not allow yourself to be drawn in to any mind games.
There is no game for you to play well.
There is more to life, more to your life.
That is why it is important to speak with others who are also on a Spiritual Journey otherwise, your love house will crash thus sending you spiraling down into a "meantime" experience.
There really is no time limit on how long a particular "meantime" should last and if you are placing "should" around how long a "meantime" should last, then you are not giving that "meantime" the attention it deserves.
We cannot rush through a "meantime" experience.
We are sent in a "meantime" situation because we have something to heal, something to remember about love and about ourselves.
We need to ride out the "meantime".
Sometimes, we will go through "meantime" experiences one behind the other.
Just as we think we have made it through one "meantime" experience, here comes another one that slams us back down to Square One.
It may seem as if you will never make it to Square Two, but you will, be patient.
There is nothing more electrifying than living my life on the Third Floor.
Would I want to live in The Attic of Love's House, sure, but I am OK with the Third Floor.
Life becomes magical; it's electrifying, magnificent and wonderful.
Ms.
Vanzant's metaphor of Love's House is referred to in other terms.
Martha Beck uses the metaphor of the Four Square's and Dan Millman, in his book, "Sacred Journey Of The Peaceful Warrior" speaks of The Tower of Seven Floors.
While I do respect the teachings of Ms.
Vanzant and Ms.
Beck's, it is the teachings of Dan Millman that really speaks to my heart and mind.
He speaks of our wanting to live in the Penthouse Suite of life.
If we are in the Penthouse, but the lower levels of our self has not been cleaned out, then the elevator of our life will send us crashing back down to those levels.
Once they have been cleaned out, then we can climb back up to the Penthouse Suite where there is good living.
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage", Lao Tzu.
Can you imagine having that kind of deep love for yourself? Do you know how much life will begin to open up to you once you have unearthed all the love that is inside of you? You won't be living half of your life.
No, you will be living life full out.
You will start experiencing life in all its magnificence and you will have new and wonderful experiences every day.
You will begin to find joy in the smallest of things and you will be happy with you.
You won't be afraid of being alone with you because you know you will be in good company.
When you start to feel that abundance of love filling you up, you will be able to bring that love to everything that you do.
You can even turn around an ugly situation if need be.
Do not for one second think that you are weak if you love.
That is utter rubbish.
Sadly, there are people who will take advantage of that love, thinking they can use you, con you and walk over you because you are weak.
Many people actually believe that love is for the weak and foolish and they live with a hardened heart to everyone.
That is no way to live.
Love makes us strong, but that is the love we have for ourselves.
That is the love that will motivate us to leave a less than loving situation behind.
Living our life from the Third Floor of Love's House means that we have and give unconditional love to everything in our life.
It doesn't mean that we will allow people who are unloving to us in our lives.
We can love them from afar while continuing with our life.
Getting our Love House in order is a tall order or a short order depending on where we are in our individual Journey.
But isn't that a Journey that's worth embarking on? ###
What is Love's House? Well, according to Miss Iyanla Vanzant, Love's House is our inner self.
Digging up emotional debris from our subconscious will bring up a lot of pain internally.
As a result, we will be drawn to others who are also in pain.
When we are in pain, it will be difficult to stand fully in Love's House.
Now that we have expunged all that pain that was preventing our life from being in balance, it is now time to open the doors and the windows of our life and let some fresh air to enter.
Ms.
Vanzant likened Love's House to that of a five-story house consisting of The Basement, First Floor, Second Floor, Third Floor and The Attic.
Each floors deals with specific situations and emotions starting with The Basement level.
As we heal internally and start to look at ourselves in healthier light, we will start to climb up to the higher floors.
Even after we have climbed up to those floors, if we still have some left over emotional residue from the lower floors, then life will send us right back down to those floors to clear up and or heal those left over emotions.
When we have cleaned out those lower levels within us, then we resume our climb to the higher floors.
When we are smack dab in the middle of a "meantime" experience, everything will seem as if it is crashing down on our heads.
Nothing seems to be going right, while everything seems to be going wrong.
Relationships that we once held dear have crumbled, you may have lost your job, suffered a deep emotional loss of a loved one or you may have been diagnosed with a debilitating illness.
Yes, those are real life issues and not a poker game.
While you are in the middle of a meantime, it will be difficult to handle the insensitivity of others who do not understand what you are going through, where you are coming from or even where you are going.
They will apply their level of thinking, being and reasoning to your situation.
Do not allow yourself to be drawn in to any mind games.
There is no game for you to play well.
There is more to life, more to your life.
That is why it is important to speak with others who are also on a Spiritual Journey otherwise, your love house will crash thus sending you spiraling down into a "meantime" experience.
There really is no time limit on how long a particular "meantime" should last and if you are placing "should" around how long a "meantime" should last, then you are not giving that "meantime" the attention it deserves.
We cannot rush through a "meantime" experience.
We are sent in a "meantime" situation because we have something to heal, something to remember about love and about ourselves.
We need to ride out the "meantime".
Sometimes, we will go through "meantime" experiences one behind the other.
Just as we think we have made it through one "meantime" experience, here comes another one that slams us back down to Square One.
It may seem as if you will never make it to Square Two, but you will, be patient.
There is nothing more electrifying than living my life on the Third Floor.
Would I want to live in The Attic of Love's House, sure, but I am OK with the Third Floor.
Life becomes magical; it's electrifying, magnificent and wonderful.
Ms.
Vanzant's metaphor of Love's House is referred to in other terms.
Martha Beck uses the metaphor of the Four Square's and Dan Millman, in his book, "Sacred Journey Of The Peaceful Warrior" speaks of The Tower of Seven Floors.
While I do respect the teachings of Ms.
Vanzant and Ms.
Beck's, it is the teachings of Dan Millman that really speaks to my heart and mind.
He speaks of our wanting to live in the Penthouse Suite of life.
If we are in the Penthouse, but the lower levels of our self has not been cleaned out, then the elevator of our life will send us crashing back down to those levels.
Once they have been cleaned out, then we can climb back up to the Penthouse Suite where there is good living.
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage", Lao Tzu.
Can you imagine having that kind of deep love for yourself? Do you know how much life will begin to open up to you once you have unearthed all the love that is inside of you? You won't be living half of your life.
No, you will be living life full out.
You will start experiencing life in all its magnificence and you will have new and wonderful experiences every day.
You will begin to find joy in the smallest of things and you will be happy with you.
You won't be afraid of being alone with you because you know you will be in good company.
When you start to feel that abundance of love filling you up, you will be able to bring that love to everything that you do.
You can even turn around an ugly situation if need be.
Do not for one second think that you are weak if you love.
That is utter rubbish.
Sadly, there are people who will take advantage of that love, thinking they can use you, con you and walk over you because you are weak.
Many people actually believe that love is for the weak and foolish and they live with a hardened heart to everyone.
That is no way to live.
Love makes us strong, but that is the love we have for ourselves.
That is the love that will motivate us to leave a less than loving situation behind.
Living our life from the Third Floor of Love's House means that we have and give unconditional love to everything in our life.
It doesn't mean that we will allow people who are unloving to us in our lives.
We can love them from afar while continuing with our life.
Getting our Love House in order is a tall order or a short order depending on where we are in our individual Journey.
But isn't that a Journey that's worth embarking on? ###