After a split, different people experience different feelings.
While some moan and mope and go into severe depression, some move on with their lives.
There is a third lot who fall in a dilemma.
They want to remain close to their exes, no matter whether they are romantically involved or not.
They want to stay in touch.
If you too are having such feelings, this article is for you.
First of all to win your ex back, does keeping in touch help? Would it expedite matters? Such questions are normal, especially when you have split from a person who you still love very dearly.
Let us examine the pros and cons of staying in touch after a split, especially when your ultimate aim is to win your ex back: •Staying in touch means that you are merely 'friends' without any special meaning attached to it.
This can be a good way to see him or her from close quarters and enjoying the company, just like before.
However there is a big difference between a friend and a lover.
You have to curtail your expectations from your ex accordingly.
•If to win your ex back is your ultimate agenda, it is understood that you still feel very possessive about your ex.
But there is every possibility of finding your ex flirting with another man or woman or another lover walking in to the relationship.
Can you take this in the right spirit? •When you stay in touch as friends, your ex finds you to be the most trusted person in his or her circle.
This can also mean that you soon become another sounding board - giving emotional support and encouragement.
This can be quite trying.
•Even when you stay in touch, there would still be certain confidentialities which your ex would like to keep away from you.
This can be very hurting, as you are used to knowing everything that is going on in your ex's life.
•What are you ultimately gaining by keeping in touch, if you finally want to win your ex back as a lover? Remember, when you have such deep and hidden intentions, you are also losing out on opportunities to move on.
You are actually stuck somewhere in the middle of nowhere - neither can you call your ex your lover, nor can any other new lover enter your life.
Your life is in a limbo.
While staying in touch may 'appear' to be the only way to keep your ex in your line of vision, but as far as the mind is concerned, to win your ex back you have to deploy several other stronger strategies.
While some moan and mope and go into severe depression, some move on with their lives.
There is a third lot who fall in a dilemma.
They want to remain close to their exes, no matter whether they are romantically involved or not.
They want to stay in touch.
If you too are having such feelings, this article is for you.
First of all to win your ex back, does keeping in touch help? Would it expedite matters? Such questions are normal, especially when you have split from a person who you still love very dearly.
Let us examine the pros and cons of staying in touch after a split, especially when your ultimate aim is to win your ex back: •Staying in touch means that you are merely 'friends' without any special meaning attached to it.
This can be a good way to see him or her from close quarters and enjoying the company, just like before.
However there is a big difference between a friend and a lover.
You have to curtail your expectations from your ex accordingly.
•If to win your ex back is your ultimate agenda, it is understood that you still feel very possessive about your ex.
But there is every possibility of finding your ex flirting with another man or woman or another lover walking in to the relationship.
Can you take this in the right spirit? •When you stay in touch as friends, your ex finds you to be the most trusted person in his or her circle.
This can also mean that you soon become another sounding board - giving emotional support and encouragement.
This can be quite trying.
•Even when you stay in touch, there would still be certain confidentialities which your ex would like to keep away from you.
This can be very hurting, as you are used to knowing everything that is going on in your ex's life.
•What are you ultimately gaining by keeping in touch, if you finally want to win your ex back as a lover? Remember, when you have such deep and hidden intentions, you are also losing out on opportunities to move on.
You are actually stuck somewhere in the middle of nowhere - neither can you call your ex your lover, nor can any other new lover enter your life.
Your life is in a limbo.
While staying in touch may 'appear' to be the only way to keep your ex in your line of vision, but as far as the mind is concerned, to win your ex back you have to deploy several other stronger strategies.