If you find yourself in the situation of being the dumped boyfriend you may be asking yourself what you did wrong. Let's take a look at a particular situation that resulted with Matt being the dumped boyfriend. Matt was invited to a party but his girlfriend Monica wasn't able to follow. Matt went to the party anyhow, had too many drinks and ended up kissing with an anonymous girl. Some of Monica's friends were at the party and they immediately told her about Matt's cheating!
Monica called Matt and dumped him. Among the many offensive names that she had given him, she told him that she doesn't want to see him anymore.
Matt felt awful about the bad scenario. He had too many drinks and made a very bad thing but he really didn't think one bad thing was enough reason to end a completely good relationship. So Matt tried the whole lot he could to get Monica back, but things kept going even worse.
His first mistake (other than the understandable one with the girl he didn't know he made out with) was that he lied when Monica called. He asked Monica to take him back when he should have just made an effective apology for his mistake and moved on. Monica is very irritated at this time so it isn't the time for groveling as that will only make her angrier, she needs time to pacify.
Matt's next fault was that he kept hounding her to get back to him again. Over the next few days he sent her dozens of text messages and called her tens of times every day. He delivered flowers to her doorsteps. Then in a big desperate attempt to get her back he went and sang romantic songs outside her window. It was at this point that her neighbors were annoyed to the limit they had to call the police.
When a woman is this angry with a man, she needs to be alone. She needs time to herself to calm down and get past the angry stage. She needs time to think things through but Matt didn't give Monica the time she needed.
When Matt realized that what he was doing wasn't working, he took the whole 'win her back campaign' to the next level. He started dating one of Monica's best friends and he made sure that Monica noticed.
Right now Matt doesn't have a very good opportunity to change his "dumped boyfriend" tag!
Monica's friend Tamara hadn't had a boyfriend for a long time and Matt used this information so he asked her out and she said yes. Matt was stupid enough to then call Monica to ask her for a recommendation on where to take Tamara on their date. Matt's plan was to provoke Monica's jealousy so that she'd ask him to take her back but instead Monica was angry. She isn't silly, she knew accurately what Matt was doing and was very mad that Matt would play a dirty game with her friend Tamara to get back at her. She was also very mad at Tamara for accepting to go on a date with Matt.
Everything that Matt is doing was backfiring at him. He is playing the distressed ex boyfriend role which is not a good way to win back your ex.
Monica moved on from Matt and shortly started dating a new boy and when Matt found out he did everything in his power to her relationship with that new guy. Matt really had burned all of his boats by this time, all he had managed to do was push Monica further and ruining any chance for him to get back with her
This story could have had a totally different and happy ending if Matt had played the cards in his hand well even after that brainless mistake he made at that party. Monica could have forgiven him for his lapse in judgment that night if he had behaved in a good way but because he acted like a desperate dupe he lost her forever. If you are the dumped boyfriend, be careful at how you deal with the situation or you just might stay the dumped boyfriend for a very long time.
Monica called Matt and dumped him. Among the many offensive names that she had given him, she told him that she doesn't want to see him anymore.
Matt felt awful about the bad scenario. He had too many drinks and made a very bad thing but he really didn't think one bad thing was enough reason to end a completely good relationship. So Matt tried the whole lot he could to get Monica back, but things kept going even worse.
His first mistake (other than the understandable one with the girl he didn't know he made out with) was that he lied when Monica called. He asked Monica to take him back when he should have just made an effective apology for his mistake and moved on. Monica is very irritated at this time so it isn't the time for groveling as that will only make her angrier, she needs time to pacify.
Matt's next fault was that he kept hounding her to get back to him again. Over the next few days he sent her dozens of text messages and called her tens of times every day. He delivered flowers to her doorsteps. Then in a big desperate attempt to get her back he went and sang romantic songs outside her window. It was at this point that her neighbors were annoyed to the limit they had to call the police.
When a woman is this angry with a man, she needs to be alone. She needs time to herself to calm down and get past the angry stage. She needs time to think things through but Matt didn't give Monica the time she needed.
When Matt realized that what he was doing wasn't working, he took the whole 'win her back campaign' to the next level. He started dating one of Monica's best friends and he made sure that Monica noticed.
Right now Matt doesn't have a very good opportunity to change his "dumped boyfriend" tag!
Monica's friend Tamara hadn't had a boyfriend for a long time and Matt used this information so he asked her out and she said yes. Matt was stupid enough to then call Monica to ask her for a recommendation on where to take Tamara on their date. Matt's plan was to provoke Monica's jealousy so that she'd ask him to take her back but instead Monica was angry. She isn't silly, she knew accurately what Matt was doing and was very mad that Matt would play a dirty game with her friend Tamara to get back at her. She was also very mad at Tamara for accepting to go on a date with Matt.
Everything that Matt is doing was backfiring at him. He is playing the distressed ex boyfriend role which is not a good way to win back your ex.
Monica moved on from Matt and shortly started dating a new boy and when Matt found out he did everything in his power to her relationship with that new guy. Matt really had burned all of his boats by this time, all he had managed to do was push Monica further and ruining any chance for him to get back with her
This story could have had a totally different and happy ending if Matt had played the cards in his hand well even after that brainless mistake he made at that party. Monica could have forgiven him for his lapse in judgment that night if he had behaved in a good way but because he acted like a desperate dupe he lost her forever. If you are the dumped boyfriend, be careful at how you deal with the situation or you just might stay the dumped boyfriend for a very long time.