Dealing with breakup situations has got to be one of the most emotionally painful times in anyone's life.
It doesn't help that for many people, the breakup happens suddenly, without warning and leaves you with conflicting feelings of love, anger and depression.
But what if you really want to get back with your ex once again.
Are there ways to go about it that have any chance of success? The truth is yes, there are proven methods that have a good success rate but there are also actions that will have completely the wrong result and will drive your ex further away.
So what is the best course of action? Control your behavior.
Your behavior and reaction to the breakup will play a big part in any chance of getting back with your ex.
Although you may be hurting you must try to be calm and strong and above all don't seem desperate to get back together.
Desperation is a real turn off.
Don't contact your ex.
Most people mess up on this technique but it is vital.
Your ex needs some time away from your to be able to calm down a bit themselves.
Remember they have just broken up too, and that wasn't an easy choice to make.
Even though you feel like it, don't phone them or send them text messages trying to get them to realize they made a mistake.
Give them a bit of space.
Tell them they were right.
After a reasonable time, how long is up to you but a few weeks at least, you should contact them to tell them that you agree with the breakup.
A hand written letter really works much better than an email or even talking to them.
Tell them that you now realize that the relationship wasn't going to work out and you now understand the problems that let to the breakup.
This doesn't mean that you aren't going to try an get them back but it does now put you on their side.
You are now in agreement with your ex and not in a state of conflict so that you can begin to attempt a new relationship.
These initial steps will put you in a far better position to try and win back your ex's heart.