Real intimacy can seem like an elusive marital goal.
There is so activity in a typical life that couples are simply too tired at the end of the day to stoke the fires.
However, allowing intimacy in a marriage to wane is to start down a dangerous path toward isolation, if not worse.
Couples who aren't able to routinely connect typically don't wind up staying together over the long haul.
Touchy, Feely True intimacy includes much more than mere sex when the hormones come to life, and should be present both inside and outside the bedroom.
Thus, intimacy and sex are stuck in something of a paradoxical relationship - though intimacy includes much more than sexual intercourse, it nevertheless definitely includes sex (oh yes!).
Hugs, stolen kisses and cuddles throughout the day can help build the connection needed for an intimate marriage.
Taking time to talk each day and joke with one another is also important for each partner.
Depending on personalities, simply being playful with each other is often enough to plant the intimacy seeds.
Time slices together say clearly, "I'm interested in you.
" Little Surprises When couples take time to surprise one another, they are showing their mate care that goes to the heart.
Gifts like flowers or a card are effective, but sometimes your beloved needs even more.
I'm talking about simple stuff.
For example, heat up a towel in the dryer for a couple minutes and give it to your spouse as he/she steps out of the shower on a cold winter morning.
Bring your mate breakfast in bed.
Vacuum the house, or run an errand so your spouse has one less chore to do.
Be creative.
Try to customize your surprise to what you know your spouse enjoys or appreciates.
The sincerity of your actions will be appreciated.
Dangers Lurking Over Intimacy Intimacy is a bit delicate and can be damaged easily.
If couples, for example, have a conflict between them, that is like dousing those intimate emotions with water, putting out the flame.
Couples who allow hurt feelings or troubles fester will undo progress they have made.
For this reason and more, you simply need to deal with conflict together - maturely.
Many fear, unfortunately, this will make matters worse.
As long as two people work together on a problem, this actually strengthens the marriage, though it will likely be emotionally tough to do.
There are two phrases that need to be part of any marriage lexicon to keep intimacy fresh.
First, be sure to tell your beloved each day that you love him/her and are committed for life.
Secondly, don't neglect to apologize when you are in the wrong.
Insisting you are right in a heated situation is not a war that needs to be won.
Love and romance need help to thrive.
Both can wither if left "ungardened.
" Couples who make the effort to build intimacy in their relationship will enjoy the pleasures of a happy, fulfilling, sensual marriage.
There is so activity in a typical life that couples are simply too tired at the end of the day to stoke the fires.
However, allowing intimacy in a marriage to wane is to start down a dangerous path toward isolation, if not worse.
Couples who aren't able to routinely connect typically don't wind up staying together over the long haul.
Touchy, Feely True intimacy includes much more than mere sex when the hormones come to life, and should be present both inside and outside the bedroom.
Thus, intimacy and sex are stuck in something of a paradoxical relationship - though intimacy includes much more than sexual intercourse, it nevertheless definitely includes sex (oh yes!).
Hugs, stolen kisses and cuddles throughout the day can help build the connection needed for an intimate marriage.
Taking time to talk each day and joke with one another is also important for each partner.
Depending on personalities, simply being playful with each other is often enough to plant the intimacy seeds.
Time slices together say clearly, "I'm interested in you.
" Little Surprises When couples take time to surprise one another, they are showing their mate care that goes to the heart.
Gifts like flowers or a card are effective, but sometimes your beloved needs even more.
I'm talking about simple stuff.
For example, heat up a towel in the dryer for a couple minutes and give it to your spouse as he/she steps out of the shower on a cold winter morning.
Bring your mate breakfast in bed.
Vacuum the house, or run an errand so your spouse has one less chore to do.
Be creative.
Try to customize your surprise to what you know your spouse enjoys or appreciates.
The sincerity of your actions will be appreciated.
Dangers Lurking Over Intimacy Intimacy is a bit delicate and can be damaged easily.
If couples, for example, have a conflict between them, that is like dousing those intimate emotions with water, putting out the flame.
Couples who allow hurt feelings or troubles fester will undo progress they have made.
For this reason and more, you simply need to deal with conflict together - maturely.
Many fear, unfortunately, this will make matters worse.
As long as two people work together on a problem, this actually strengthens the marriage, though it will likely be emotionally tough to do.
There are two phrases that need to be part of any marriage lexicon to keep intimacy fresh.
First, be sure to tell your beloved each day that you love him/her and are committed for life.
Secondly, don't neglect to apologize when you are in the wrong.
Insisting you are right in a heated situation is not a war that needs to be won.
Love and romance need help to thrive.
Both can wither if left "ungardened.
" Couples who make the effort to build intimacy in their relationship will enjoy the pleasures of a happy, fulfilling, sensual marriage.