Separated But Living Together - The Way To Divorce In 2011!
As hard times continue to dominate the average income family throughout the world more married couples heading for divorce are staying together.
Lack of funds and a massive mortgage is often all that is needed for Mr and Mrs to stay living together under the same roof with their children.
Some will say this a crazy way to divorce while others feeling similar pressures will recognize the need to hold onto what little they may have.
These tough times that many countries continue to experience do not have an end date in sight so one can hardly blame a couple with or without children to sit tight till there is a break through in the global financial markets.
It is a well known fact that money problems lead to the break up of relationships as it is damn hard to put on a happy face when you are finding it hard to meet your mortgage payments.
Nobody wants to lose the equity they have put into the family home as it has often been a labor of love to save for the deposit alone.
A home purchased by a young married couple is seen as the cement in the foundation of their unification.
When the seas get rough and one or both partners want to bail out of the sinking ship there is a lot to consider.
In times of easy credit and stable economies a couple generally separated by moving into different residences and through divorce lawyers worked out who would get what and visitation rights for the children.
My how the times have changed as the family unit living in separate rooms but in the same house endeavor to unravel the marriage which is no longer wanted.
For some it is not that difficult as they are able to accept their new living arrangement knowing that in time they will be moving on.
This is not always the case for there may only be one partner who initiated the divorce leaving the other feeling trapped in an arrangement that is a no win situation for them.
Therefore it is important that if a separated couple intend living together for whatever reason they have it is imperative it is a joint decision.
Staring at your ex husband or wife across the breakfast table will be strange enough without feeling that your heart is being ripped out every time you are asked to pass the milk or sugar.
If there are children in the equation they will soak up the vibes like a wet sponge and feel caught in the middle of a battle field where there is no escape.
As parents it is up to you to try your best to keep things as peaceful as possible.
Easier said than done I will agree but as the adults you steer the course of your kids future so explain to them what is happening and keep them constantly in the loop.
It may not completely register with them what you are saying especially if they are very young but I believe honesty is the best policy as it shows your children that open communication is the key to making things work.
Your relationship may have broken down for a lot of reasons but it is how you deal with the ending that can determine how your children will deal with their future intimate relationships.
In wrapping this up there is no doubt that the number of couples living together in divorce is still on the rise so if this is how you and your ex husband or wife intend to divorce don't be embarrassed or bullied by other peoples opinions.
I am sure you have not come to this decision lightly and believe it is the best for your family.
Remember as humans we are capable of great change and adaptability so walk confidently through this living arrangement because you will make it through.
Good Luck.
Lack of funds and a massive mortgage is often all that is needed for Mr and Mrs to stay living together under the same roof with their children.
Some will say this a crazy way to divorce while others feeling similar pressures will recognize the need to hold onto what little they may have.
These tough times that many countries continue to experience do not have an end date in sight so one can hardly blame a couple with or without children to sit tight till there is a break through in the global financial markets.
It is a well known fact that money problems lead to the break up of relationships as it is damn hard to put on a happy face when you are finding it hard to meet your mortgage payments.
Nobody wants to lose the equity they have put into the family home as it has often been a labor of love to save for the deposit alone.
A home purchased by a young married couple is seen as the cement in the foundation of their unification.
When the seas get rough and one or both partners want to bail out of the sinking ship there is a lot to consider.
In times of easy credit and stable economies a couple generally separated by moving into different residences and through divorce lawyers worked out who would get what and visitation rights for the children.
My how the times have changed as the family unit living in separate rooms but in the same house endeavor to unravel the marriage which is no longer wanted.
For some it is not that difficult as they are able to accept their new living arrangement knowing that in time they will be moving on.
This is not always the case for there may only be one partner who initiated the divorce leaving the other feeling trapped in an arrangement that is a no win situation for them.
Therefore it is important that if a separated couple intend living together for whatever reason they have it is imperative it is a joint decision.
Staring at your ex husband or wife across the breakfast table will be strange enough without feeling that your heart is being ripped out every time you are asked to pass the milk or sugar.
If there are children in the equation they will soak up the vibes like a wet sponge and feel caught in the middle of a battle field where there is no escape.
As parents it is up to you to try your best to keep things as peaceful as possible.
Easier said than done I will agree but as the adults you steer the course of your kids future so explain to them what is happening and keep them constantly in the loop.
It may not completely register with them what you are saying especially if they are very young but I believe honesty is the best policy as it shows your children that open communication is the key to making things work.
Your relationship may have broken down for a lot of reasons but it is how you deal with the ending that can determine how your children will deal with their future intimate relationships.
In wrapping this up there is no doubt that the number of couples living together in divorce is still on the rise so if this is how you and your ex husband or wife intend to divorce don't be embarrassed or bullied by other peoples opinions.
I am sure you have not come to this decision lightly and believe it is the best for your family.
Remember as humans we are capable of great change and adaptability so walk confidently through this living arrangement because you will make it through.
Good Luck.