When we are going through a very difficult and painful breakup with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, the line between what is acceptable behavior and what is not can be blurred by the intensity of the moment. We can be desperate and depressed and willing to do almost anything at such times.
You must always keep in mind that you will have to live with the consequences of your actions. Always stop and take several breaths and think before doing anything. Set your emotions aside and let reason and common sense reign in the situation. You will be so thankful that you did.
Bad situations can be made so much worse through rash decisions and less-than-noble actions. Be the kind of person that anyone would love to be with, and things will fall into place with your ex whether you get back together or not.
That being said, I would like to present to you some definite breaking up don'ts to help you along the path of doing what is right during this very difficult time in your life when it may be very hard to discern what are the correct actions to take.
1. Don't become bitter and angry if your ex has gone on and is involved with someone new. This is probably one of the more difficult and heart-wrenching situations to deal with because it hurts so badly to see them with someone else.
It is difficult also because it will be almost impossible to find a time to just talk one-on-one. The new person in their life is now their priority and not you.
Determine that you will be consistently pleasant and nice to them at this time. To fail in this area would be a crucial mistake. Do not let your guard down and become nasty. You have to demonstrate to your ex that you are worth a second consideration and that they might have actually made a mistake in letting you go.
2. Don't ever resort to deception in any form. Remember the old saying, "Oh, what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive." This can only end badly.
Sooner or later, "your sins will find you out." Your ex will know that you have not been honest with them, and it will destroy any chances of getting back together. Even worse, you could actually get back together only to separate again because they have found out about your lying ways later.
3. Don't start dating again because you want to make your ex jealous. It is all right if you feel the need to get out and be around new people, but it is not fair to the new person you are dating if it is only to make your ex jealous.
Also, this tactic could do the opposite of its intended purpose and send your ex away because they believe that you have moved on, and they need to do likewise.
You must always keep in mind that you will have to live with the consequences of your actions. Always stop and take several breaths and think before doing anything. Set your emotions aside and let reason and common sense reign in the situation. You will be so thankful that you did.
Bad situations can be made so much worse through rash decisions and less-than-noble actions. Be the kind of person that anyone would love to be with, and things will fall into place with your ex whether you get back together or not.
That being said, I would like to present to you some definite breaking up don'ts to help you along the path of doing what is right during this very difficult time in your life when it may be very hard to discern what are the correct actions to take.
1. Don't become bitter and angry if your ex has gone on and is involved with someone new. This is probably one of the more difficult and heart-wrenching situations to deal with because it hurts so badly to see them with someone else.
It is difficult also because it will be almost impossible to find a time to just talk one-on-one. The new person in their life is now their priority and not you.
Determine that you will be consistently pleasant and nice to them at this time. To fail in this area would be a crucial mistake. Do not let your guard down and become nasty. You have to demonstrate to your ex that you are worth a second consideration and that they might have actually made a mistake in letting you go.
2. Don't ever resort to deception in any form. Remember the old saying, "Oh, what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive." This can only end badly.
Sooner or later, "your sins will find you out." Your ex will know that you have not been honest with them, and it will destroy any chances of getting back together. Even worse, you could actually get back together only to separate again because they have found out about your lying ways later.
3. Don't start dating again because you want to make your ex jealous. It is all right if you feel the need to get out and be around new people, but it is not fair to the new person you are dating if it is only to make your ex jealous.
Also, this tactic could do the opposite of its intended purpose and send your ex away because they believe that you have moved on, and they need to do likewise.