Going through a break up can be very difficult, especially when you never see it coming.
All along you believe the two of you were meant to spend forever together.
All that is crushed faster than you can say, "I'm sorry".
In the heat of the moment the last thing on your mind is apologizing, everything is focused on blame and anger.
Starting right now you have to turn that thinking around.
Find out tactics you can use to get your man back and fall in love all over again.
Admit responsibility You might want to say it was all his fault for your breakup, but more often than not you are both responsible.
The thought process that one or the other person is to blame comes out of a lack of communication.
If you are able to communicate clearly in your relationship, you are better able to foresee shortcomings and work at ways to deal with them.
So quit it right now - you have a part of the blame to deal with.
Until you accept responsibility for your part in the break up, you will not be able to move forward.
If your man sees that you are admitting fault, it will speak volumes to him.
Keep your distance You do not want to be seen as nagging him, smothering him, cowering at his feet or crying incessantly.
To rebuild with confidence, you need to keep interactions short and general to start.
If you two cannot communicate about general topics for a short period, how you do expect to get through the long, emotionally draining and stress-filled conversations? You are essentially build a brand new relationship - even as far to say starting over.
This is the time when you need to listen.
Wait - did you just read that without truly listening? That's usually what happens.
The waves of his words roll over you like clouds in the sky that you hardly notice.
Stop and listen, think, and then reply appropriately.
Get all that? If not - re-read and re-read! Once you think you have got your feet wet with simple conversation (affectionately known as 'shooting the breeze') then and only then move into deeper waters.
Confidence is key At the best of times, no one likes a low self-esteem, confidence-lacking, pathetic and withdrawn person.
If you come across in this light to your man, what is he going to think? Well, for starters, he is most certainly not going to be attracted to that type of person.
Two, he is not going to see a person that REALLY wants to work through the rough times and rebuild.
It might be hard to be confident during this time - but you have to be.
Look for things in your life that bring about positive images for you - feed off of those.
What you present outside will make or break the chances for rebuilding your relationship.
You might still be that "low self-esteem, confidence-lacking, pathetic and withdrawn" person inside to start, just do not show it.
"Chin up Wilbur".
While it might come across as harsh, if you want this bad enough, you have to make the effort.
You love this guy still and you know there is still years of love and sharing together - show him that.
Many more helpful hints can be found below as well.
Making up starts with you and following these tactics will help you get there.
All along you believe the two of you were meant to spend forever together.
All that is crushed faster than you can say, "I'm sorry".
In the heat of the moment the last thing on your mind is apologizing, everything is focused on blame and anger.
Starting right now you have to turn that thinking around.
Find out tactics you can use to get your man back and fall in love all over again.
Admit responsibility You might want to say it was all his fault for your breakup, but more often than not you are both responsible.
The thought process that one or the other person is to blame comes out of a lack of communication.
If you are able to communicate clearly in your relationship, you are better able to foresee shortcomings and work at ways to deal with them.
So quit it right now - you have a part of the blame to deal with.
Until you accept responsibility for your part in the break up, you will not be able to move forward.
If your man sees that you are admitting fault, it will speak volumes to him.
Keep your distance You do not want to be seen as nagging him, smothering him, cowering at his feet or crying incessantly.
To rebuild with confidence, you need to keep interactions short and general to start.
If you two cannot communicate about general topics for a short period, how you do expect to get through the long, emotionally draining and stress-filled conversations? You are essentially build a brand new relationship - even as far to say starting over.
This is the time when you need to listen.
Wait - did you just read that without truly listening? That's usually what happens.
The waves of his words roll over you like clouds in the sky that you hardly notice.
Stop and listen, think, and then reply appropriately.
Get all that? If not - re-read and re-read! Once you think you have got your feet wet with simple conversation (affectionately known as 'shooting the breeze') then and only then move into deeper waters.
Confidence is key At the best of times, no one likes a low self-esteem, confidence-lacking, pathetic and withdrawn person.
If you come across in this light to your man, what is he going to think? Well, for starters, he is most certainly not going to be attracted to that type of person.
Two, he is not going to see a person that REALLY wants to work through the rough times and rebuild.
It might be hard to be confident during this time - but you have to be.
Look for things in your life that bring about positive images for you - feed off of those.
What you present outside will make or break the chances for rebuilding your relationship.
You might still be that "low self-esteem, confidence-lacking, pathetic and withdrawn" person inside to start, just do not show it.
"Chin up Wilbur".
While it might come across as harsh, if you want this bad enough, you have to make the effort.
You love this guy still and you know there is still years of love and sharing together - show him that.
Many more helpful hints can be found below as well.
Making up starts with you and following these tactics will help you get there.