Reader Question: I have recently started seeing a therapist. I have a pretty long list of trauma in my life. In the last year I have lost my husband and both parents. I am in a haze much of the time. This worries me because it is reminiscent of my coping abilities during past trauma. Hence the need to find a therapist. Only, I do not talk while there. When asked a question or when we start down a path my mind goes blank and there really is nothing there for me to grab hold of or to share.

It is so frustrating and I don't know how to keep that wall from popping up or to take it down to help make sessions beneficial. ~Morgan

Answer: Dear Morgan, First, let me express my condolences for your losses of the past year. Such a deep sense of transition would put anyone into a haze that they do not know how to get out of.

Grief is a powerful emotion that we hold tight inside ourselves, not wanting to let it out for fear that once the tears begin they will never stop. It actually makes us feel power-less. When facing those feelings, even with the help of a therapist, you still need to acknowledge the powerlessness. I would suggest that you begin by working with a flower essence practitioner first, or a least in conjunction with the therapy.

There is a tremendous amount of information readily available about the benefits of flower essence therapy. The essences assist the emotional healing process. They work with the vibrational energy of your emotional state, slowly shifting the compacted, frozen emotion, helping things to flow once again.

Grief can feel like you have suddenly been ripped out of the flow of your life and you're stuck on the side of the river, not moving. The flow is in front of you but you cannot reach it. The flower essences will assist you in a subtle way, giving you the courage to join the river once again and allow your emotions to flow.

The therapist is there to be a support system. It is important to work with someone who you feel very safe with. If this is not the case with your existing therapist, find another. This is your emotional journey and you deserve the most supportive partner in your process. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need.

I wish you all the best.

Blessings,
Jaelin

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Disclaimer: Jaelin K. Reece often shares insights derived from intuitive communications. Any advice she offers is not meant to override your personal health providers' recommendations/prescriptions, but is intended to offer a higher perspective on your behalf based on the question you asked of her.